it may not be what you want to hear..... but I have written a very frank account of my experience with my lupus. it is in the blog section. the easiest way to find it is to click on my name (in blue print), go to my profile, then go to my blog. I fully understand your frustration ...... it took me about 30 years to get a diagnosis. most doctors had no idea how to join the dots, and see the big picture of my health.
When you're stressed, You eat Ice cream, Cake, Chocolate & Sweets. Why? Because stressed spelled backwards is DESSERTS.