I am sorry you are having such a hard time !!!!!!! unfortunately many of us have had similar stories. I knew I had issues for about 35 years before someone put 2 and 2 together, and actually found something. if your rheumy is only looking at the blood work ...... and not your symptoms as well, then maybe he is not the right doctor for you. most of us have found that doctors who are prepared to look at symptoms along with blood work usually find answers. there are some members here who only use there gp, as they can not find a competent rheumy in there area. it is a hard question for anyone else to answer...... but if you are seriously asking, then you already know the answer. it is your health .... so you need to take control.
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