Hello and Welcome to our family;
I do hope that you are able to find a good rheumatologist (unfortunately, too many of them could care less about us!) and/or primary physician who takes you and your symptoms seriously. It is important that you get back on your meds as Lupus can run rampant without them. Also, do be VERY careful about trying herbal remedies. Many of them can aggravate our symptoms and can even bring on new symptoms.
You are right, ignoring this disease and pretending that it did not happen is a very bad decision; one that could be fatal. Please do read through all of our forums to find some of the ways that our members have written about to deal with flare ups, to help avoid future flare ups, and how different medications work for different symptoms.
You must remember that Lupus does not affect any of us in the same way, so our treatment regimen and medications have to be tweaked for each of us personally. Just as Lupus affects us differently, so are our periods of remission different and our flare ups are different.
We are here to help you to learn as much as you can about this disease and how it affects you so that you can manage it as best you can. I wish you the very best and I am glad that you decided to join our family.
Peace and Blessings
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