My life truly a 3 ring circus with too many clowns and too much drama. Much of it caused by my daughter. Well I guess she won't be a problem any longer as she's cut me and the family out of her life.
It all started when she got involved with a guy who, less than 3 months after meeting gives her and std and gets her pregnant. I've never been a fan of the guy but daughter claims to love him, so we accepted him and welcomed him into the family. They got married in April. She changed. During a girl's weekend out in May she totally freaked out and we had the arguement of the century. She was driving a car that I was LENDING her (it had belonged to my mother who passed away the previous October). Long story short I took the car away. The arguement was horrific. She called me every name in the book and carried on for 4 hours. She's never forgiven me for taking away what she thought she should rightfully have (pay it forward according to her). Note that she also had moved into Mom's house shortly after she died. I let her stay there with the provision she pay utilities, lot rent (mobile home park) and assist with getting the house ready for sale as it needed quite a bit of work. She paid lot rent. I got stuck with her utilities and she never did any work on the house, rather call me and tell me I needed to do it myself. Mind you she was working part time, had her now husband there plus another male roommate. All able bodies that did nothing. To "punish" me, they moved out and in with her new inlaws where she still is. I'm now in the process of closing on the sale of the house. She quit talking to me in May and didn't speak to me until August for a couple days then went off the radar again. I've sent her text messages letting her know that she is loved and the door is always open. During all this, her now husband has been horrendous. I was raised to respect your elders end of discussion. He, however, thought it perfectly fine to make demands on me and call me and my husband names. Daughter went along with that. Well if it weren't for the fact that I don't care to go to prison, I would have shown him the business end of a baseball bat. Fortunately for him I wouldn't do well in prison...She at one point threw the car remote across the parking lot and told me to "go fetch". I raised her better than that! Her and her brother got everything they ever needed and most of what they wanted. They were never abused and beaten. They can't relate to "A child called it". They lived a decent middle class life. Yet she has decided that the entire family is evil personified and hates us all. Last Thursday she had her baby. I found out through the grapevine. I texted her the next night congratulations. A couple hours later I received a text from her that she wants me to know absolutely nothing about her life. I felt like I had my heart ripped out. I did see her and her husband in September. They just glared at my husband and I. Ouch. So now I am grieving, for although she's still alive, she is completely out of my life and it hurts as if she had died. Actually it hurts more because she IS alive and raising a child I'll never know. All because I stopped letting her walk all over me.
"I'm going to get healthy or die trying"