I'm sorry for your situation there, Mica. You too kim. You guys got 'lations in Southern Missouri?... tic - just kidding. Both sides of my family are like that. I usually just "float through" family viewings and funerals, "hit it and git it", as they say, and avoid talking politics, religion, philosophy, anything, even the weather, with a lot of 'em... lol - "Mean" doesn't describe some of my kin... It's difficult to sympathize, or have empathy for someone like that. But there are a few good ones in there, and they make it worthwhile to be there for them. They've been there for me more than once... we'll be thinking and praying for ya Mica.
"There but for the grace of God, go I."
"... His mercy endureth for ever."