I just want to say that your uncle is an idiot and you should ignore him(sorry for the name). How dare he tell you what to do or compare you to someone else. We are ALL different and we all deal with our diseases differently. I don't work full time, I work 2 hours a day walking a dog for a 90 year old man that makes me $400 a month on top of full disability ($906) that I get in my Province. Its all I can do and I can barely keep it up, I am exhausted and in pain every single day, even on Plaquenil. I used to work hard physical jobs full time 7 days a week because I thought I had no way out and that was what I was supposed to do, to continue being in the working class of society. That was a big mistake for me and I got so sick that I couldn't take it anymore that I quit, lived on welfare for a while, applied for disability and was approved 2 months later.
Disability is around for a reason, to help those in need, and you would be one of those people should you choose to persue it. A lot of healthy people have NO idea what its like to be on a program like this, and it is NOT a walk in the park or a "free ride in life". It's very hard to get and once you have it there are strict rules to follow, and in my province they don't give you enough support and keep you under the poverty line. There are many people who have abused the system and that's usually the first thing a healthy person thinks of.
You're right about the jobs too, it seems like every single one unless its some crap job at a fast food restaurant, requires education. I am stubborn and I refuse to work at a job I hate just to make money, it won't happen. I can't stand all day, I can't walk all day, I have trouble thinking, I am exhausted all the time, headaches, dizzy, pain all over my body, who is going to hire me and keep me around? No one. The dog walking is something I made up myself and advertised and was lucky to get a client. I also love the job so the happiness helps me keep going and motivates me, plus I love dogs.
Only YOU can make decisions for yourself and if someone else doesn't like them then that's tough beans to them. They'll never understand besides your mom and someone else who also feels the same way you do. Plus I always think that a healthy person who thinks they know what they are talking about, will be desperate when they get sick and need help.
Sorry if my post sounds a bit depressing, I've just been there and I really know what you are going through.
I am 25 years old, so I am very young too. I was diagnosed when I was 22 but my doctors believe I may have already had my diseases way back when I was a kid.
"With gentle hands and the heart of a fighter, I am a survivor!" - Reba McEntire