Hi and welcome to WHL! Your wife is so lucky to have you. Family support plays a huge part in helping relieve the stress of this disease (and stress can make us much more ill).
THere are several people here that are the spouses, partners or loved ones of someone with an Auto Immune Disease. There is a section for friends and family which you can find off of the main page or simply feel free to post anywhere on the forum. Lupus and other Auto Immune Disease are family diseases. They affect everyone that the sick person loves and deals with. Please make yourself at home and welcome to the WHL family!