I need opinions
I know I have talked about this before, but I need opinions from you guys if you don't mind.
I have had my license for about 7-8 years now and I own a car. My insurance is high, car payments are high, and gas is high, so being able to drive at all is a privilege these days it seems, to me.
I have 3 other siblings, my 2 brothers drive, they are 26 and 22, and my younger sister doesn't at all, and she's 24. She says she is working on getting her license every time someone asks her about it and then gets angry (she's been working on getting her license for 3 years, how long does it take to read a damned book).
I moved out of her place 2 months ago to live on my own because I was going nuts living with her and dealing with her baggage and her friends crap. I really enjoy being on my own again, its been wonderful so far.
She takes the bus to work or walks every day because she doesn't drive and she has no choice. She used to ask for rides when she woke up late, or it was snowing or raining or even when she didn't "feel like" taking the bus or to walk, she'd want a ride.
I am a person who is very scared of someone elses anger and I used to do anything to avoid it, so I'd give in and give her rides as much as I didn't want to.
She barely asks these days but when she does, I still don't want to, and what happens is she lays out a guilt trap and says crap like "You should do something nice for me sometimes" or "It'd be nice if you did this so I didn't have to rush for once" etc etc.
I don't even like driving MYSELF around but I did it because it makes life much easier and I can't walk for more than an hour.
Now am I just wondering, why is ANY of those reasons my problem? Do I HAVE to give her rides just because I am her sister and I "should" be nice to her? She has helped me a lot in the past and I have repaid her for those times and there are ones where she says I don't need to repay her at all, but then she throws in the stupid you should be nice to me crap and it makes me feel like I am a bad person for not wanting to cart her ass around, Oh and then WAIT for her at wherever it is she needs to go. I've have waited as long as 2 hours and didn't say anything, because I knew if I did, she'd just blow up with anger.
Now its not just her I say no to, I don't like giving anyone rides who don't drive themselves, I figure that is what the bus and your legs are for, or else get your license.
What do you think? Should she stop asking me for rides and just take the bus or walk? I am so annoyed that she does not drive yet, and it makes me even more angry when she lays out those guilt traps...GRRRR what do I do? Any thoughts??
I don't know why I even care that she's mad at me, but I do, because I don't want her angry at me over stupid things. I should be able to say no and not give a crap what she thinks about that but I always do.
Last edited by Hunniebun; 06-01-2012 at 11:06 AM.
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