I agree with the posts above.. you are in NO way whiny. I completely understand what you're going through. Your husbands responses sound a lot like my boyfriends. At first I was really upset with my boyfriends reaction to my diagnosis. He kept telling me that Lupus wasn't going to have a big effect on my life, etc. Now looking at it I think his approach was off, but he was just in denial. Truth is that I will have periods of pain and sickness in my life and that is a lot for someone who really loves me to deal with.
I know I had to go through a period of acceptance after I was diagnosed and so did my boyfriend. Recently things have gotten a little bit better and I'm hoping they do for you as well.
Lupus, Secondary Raynaud's Phenomenon, Pernio (Chilblains)