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    Has anyone had to drop out of school, even just temporarily, because it just got to be too much on top of everything else? I feel like I need to right now to get myself where I want to be, but I feel like my family will be so disappointed. I don't want to hear about how I'm doing nothing with my life while I'm not in school. But all I want to do right now is nothing. I want to enjoy my summer, start to feel better, de-stress, and read a freaking book! That last part probably sounds dumb but I love reading and have had so much going on this past year I have not read a single book that I have gotten. I just want to feel like me again. Right now I'm a really crabby, stressed to the max, b!tch version of me. I want to take the time off to get myself physically and mentally where I need to be to do all the things I have planned.

    I'm afraid my family is going to make me feel bad for not working and not going to school. My boyfriends solution to this is for me to apply for disability and move in with him because he won't expect too much from me and won't make me feel bad about it (though he doesn't want me to stop going to school either). I don't know if thats what I should do though. I feel like doing all this will be like taking the lazy way out, but right now I just want to be "lazy". I want to rest. I NEED to rest.
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    I dropped out of college but am still unable to go back. Have you considered not being a full time student, like only take 1 or 2 classes instead. And get on that disability now if your considering it because it takes forever, but im going to tell you now your going to need to get a lawyer because disability will keep denying you because of your age. And I highly doubt your family is going to be disappointed in you for needing to take a break, you are sick and sometimes your health needs to come first.

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    Hi Ritz,

    I don't have any advice for you, but I wanted to tell you, that I totally understand.
    Your school is as hard to do, as my job is and I know that I am at the breaking point. I just want to stay home, rest and nurse my painful joints and muscles. I know that I would feel better at home, because I do, when I am on vacation.
    Speaking of vacation, don't you have the summer break coming up?
    I hope you can make a decision, that works for you.

    Debbie
    I may have been dealt a bad hand, but at least I'm still playing with a full deck. ( most of the time anyway).

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    As of right now I am signed up for summer classes, because if I don't take them I can't take any classes this coming fall. So if I try to take a break this summer it will turn into being a year off. I really don't know what to do. I have been thinking about all of this for months and now its decision time. I have to decide this week if I want to take the summer classes because tuition is due next week. I still am not sure what to do though.
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    I was in school full time as well as working full time when first started having problems im only 21 . I had to make a choice weather to move back home and keep tryin to do school or put school on hold and keep workin full time it was the hardest choice i have ever had to make i chose to put school on hold which was the best choice because i quickly got worse and had to only work part time anyways. I know its hard because you have such big goals for your self and hold your self high standards and then your worried about not only dissappointing family but your self. But i also know its important to take the time and focus on you and your health. I hope you figure out a way to make it work. Everything happens for a reason! Just know your not alone on this choice your having to make.

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    i found for me.... stress is my biggest enemy.

    when i needed to stop work, because i was so sick, the stress made it even worse.
    making a decision will reduce your stress, deciding either way.

    no choice is easy, but only you know what is best.
    can you handle summer classes, then full time study?
    listen to your body !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    i wish you peace of mind in whatever you choose.
    if it was me, id take the less stressful road.
    but it is not me.... you do what is good for you.
    the family will just have to deal with it.

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    I hate to sound like I'm tooting my own horn, but I'm the family brags on. Even today we had friends over and my mom was talking about how bad my brothers are doing right now and how they might have to go to summer school and then says well its not as bad for them but this one here is the smart one and looks at me. I feel like they are going to give me hell and if I do decide to live with my boyfriend that will be another fight. I just know that between the two of us there won't be as much to clean or keep track of and if I'm at home they will expect me to do more in the way of household things.
    "A bad cold wouldn't be so annoying if it weren't for the advice of our friends."~ Kin Hubbard

    Diagnosed: SLE, Raynauds, Interstitial Lung Disease, GERD, Myositis, Vasculitis, Fibromyalgia, Possible Sjogrens.
    Medications: 400mg Plaquenil, 2000mg Cellcept, 60mg Nifedipine, Nitroglycerin Patch, 20mg Prilosec, Trazadone, 8mg Medrol, 81mg Asprin.

    My old profile on here http://forum.wehavelupus.com/member.php?22042-ritzbit

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