First of all, welcome to WHL.
Ohh, if I could be 44 again, I am going to be 56 in January.
I am really sorry, that your wife is feeling so scared.
My rheumy is telling me the same thing, he thinks that Lupus is attacking my liver.The ultra sound did not show anything unusual, but the bloodwork is showing very high liver enzymes. He is trying to figure out, what to do next.
I am very fortunate, that Ambien is working for me, it's a Gods send. Without it I can't sleep at all.
Like other people here told you too, thankfully having Lupus is not a death sentence anymore. I think your wife should talk to her doctor about her fear of dying, I am sure that he can ease her mind.
I may have been dealt a bad hand, but at least I'm still playing with a full deck. ( most of the time anyway).