I have been with my partner for 6 months and she told me after we were close that she had lupus... I think the only reason she told me was because of the mood swings and I wasnt dealing with it... Anyway we have been going back and forth with the mood swings but at times I feel like she is shutting me out... We love 30 minutes apart and see each other on the weekends when we can... I can't tell when she is in pain when she is not with me... It hurts not knowing why she has claimed up and won't talk to me... I can't just jump up and head down there because I have kids and so does she... But itis crazy because when she is in pain and with me we are good she wants me to lay down with her and hold her... but when we are apart... I just don't know what to do..