Susie - I am sorry to hear of your health and your personal problems. I have never tried the M.j. pill and I know of no one who has - sorry.
I am currently in remission - but I couldn't begin to tell you why. The plaquenil was like a God-send for me as was the prednisone. I believe that the biggest factor in my ability to achieve remission was the elimination of my biggest stressors (like my job!).
You may find that, until you are able to reduce the stressors in your life, you may have a very difficult time achieving remission.
I hope that you find a way to do this - discuss it with your doctor!
In the meantime, try to find ways to get some peace - take time for yourself; quiet, meditation time. If you just need to talk and/or to vent, we are here for you.
Peace and Blessings