Stuck in the middle pt 2
This sandwich generation deal is a royal pain in the neck!!! My mother who doesn't own a computer nor does she intend to and is as anti technology as it basically gets, expects me to know everything and be able to find anything and everything on the internet and fix any issue she has. She has her finances so blasted messed up it will take the rest of the month to get her back on track and unless I monitor her every move, she'll end up screwed up again and again. She had automatic payments going out to places she had no idea what for. I found EIGHT of them and cancelled them ALL saving her $272 EACH MONTH from here on out. She has a supposed loan payment she has no paperwork backing up. Tomorrow morning we tackle that issue. Wednesday morning after her retirement check is deposited, we are going to cancel that particular bank account and leave that bank. I'm moving her to a credit union that I know is customer friendly. She'll probably get nasty letters since she doesn't answer her phone to anyone she doesn't know and we'll take it from there who all she legitimately owes and what. The bank she currently has is absolutely useless and mom is clueless. I suspect I'll not be able to breathe from this until September if I'm lucky. Mom doesn't want to take responsibility, she wants me to handle EVERYTHING and I've got the Power of Attorney to do so. Doesn't mean I want to though. If I get a 40 hour/week job she's going to have to help me help herself. She needs to do that anyhow. I may end up handing her a certain amount of cash each week like an allowance if that is what it takes.
To say I'm frustrated right now is an understatement. I hadn't been home 20 minutes when she pulled in with her latest catastrophe. I had picked up my daughter from work at 11 today and she wanted to take me out to lunch then shop. I survived the mall and am paying for it now. I'm overheating, my back and hips are killing me and I haven't heard either way about the job I interviewed for on Friday yet so I'm on pins and needles about that.
Mom gets a piece of junk mail with a scam offer telling her she needs to buy an extended warranty for her car and thinks she MUST have it. She bought that car in December and it has a 90000 mile warranty on it. She only has less than 17000 miles. That warranty will outlast her yet I have a hard time getting her to believe me over the junk mail which is what got her in this mess in the first place is because she believed the junk mail and was spending TWO HUNDRED SEVENTY TWO DOLLARS AND SIXTY CENTS on scams EACH MONTH!!!! I told her not to sign up for ANYTHING without running it by me first. We'll see if she listens. She's coming over first thing tomorrow morning to kill 2 more unnecessary bills (part of that $272 business) and then I'm sending her home because unless I get a phone call tomorrow morning, I have another job interview at 1:00. Wednesday morning I have to close out her bank account and open her a new one elsewhere. Thursday I think I'll sit and blow bubbles all day which will probably be all my brain will be able to process by then. These are the days I wonder why I gave up drinking...
"I'm going to get healthy or die trying"