I don't have any pain meds, besides Tylenol and occasional Advil, so I must not be anywhere near your pain level Tammy. I do know from hurting my back from time to time that for me muscle spasms and nerve pain are the worst. I'm totally laid up and can't think of anything else when that happens, and I think that if I had to deal with it for a long period of time I would go crazy. So, that is my long winded way of saying that I am sorry you are in so much pain and have been so sick.
The following recommendations come from having a daughter with chronic pain:
1) There are quite a few options when it comes to pain meds. For some people one thing might work great and not work at all for another. Call your doc tomorrow morning and see if you can try something else - preferably something that gives you some flexibility to take a little more for breakthrough pain. If he or she can't help you, ask for a referral to a pain management doc or rehab specialist. We've had the best luck with rehab docs - plus they see a lot of nerve pain and muscle spasms.
2) Most docs are reluctant to prescribe narcotics for chronic pain, but are more willing to do so if it means you can get up out of bed and be more active. If your pain is from your female parts- then that is acute pain and they theoretically should be more willing to give you something strong because it will be short term.
3) The worse your pain gets, the more medication it takes to control it - and we've been told (by the good pain docs) that people who have chronic pain have a higher tolerance to narcotics and therefore need and can handle higher doses. Most GPs and rheumy's have a threshold for how high a dose they are willing to prescribe.
Do you have access to a hot tub and can you tolerate the heat? Have you tried acupuncture or massage? My daughter gets very busy with crafts when she is hurting, trying to distract herself and engage a more pleasurable part of her brain. Funny movies - laughter is supposed to release endorphins that decrease pain. If you aren't taking narcotics, I bet that bottle of wine will make the movies even funnier! Rubbing the affected part, or the unaffected part if that is too painful, is supposed to help by giving your nervous system another sensation to process.
That's about all I got this morning, Tammy. I hope you are able to find some relief today, both physically and mentally.