Hi Cafrin :lol:
My responses generally depend upon who is asking me? If it is a friend who is dear to me and who knows everything about me, my illness, my medications etc. Then, I know that they are asking because they truly want to know and they truly care:
I tell them the whole ugly truth! These friends see me when I'm up, down, depressed, deathly ill, relatively healthy, etc. etc. - so there is no need to candy coat anything with them or to lie to them. Many of my closest and dearest friends are also suffering from some type of chronic illness, so we support one another!
If it is a friend who I just spend some time with and enjoy their company occassionally, but they know that I have this disease, I generally say something like:
"Things have been going fairly well and I feel pretty good today. Thank you so much for asking"
I give that response because if things were going badly and if I felt bad, that particular friend would not see me. So, the fact that I am with them means that I am feeling pretty good and things are going well. I do not explain my disease to them unless they ask me a specific question. There are some things that I let them know from the onset, like - I can't be in the sun too long, I tire easily and quickly so I won't be participating in this that or the other, I am very careful about what and where I eat and I am sensitive to a lot of harsh lighting. They are generally very understanding and accommodating. If they do not know that I have Lupus, I immediately tell them that the above restrictions are due to the fact that I have Lupus. I do not elaborate nor do I invite questions. I quickly move on once I've made the statement and made them aware of my limitations. I do it lightheartedly and always with a smile and/or a laugh because I do not want to make them feel uncomfortable or uneasy.
If it is a friend or family member who I know really doesn't care or who really doesn't want to know, I generally say:
"I'm doing well enough, thank you, and how are you?"
For strangers or those who are just acquaintences who may or may not know that I have this disease, I just give the universal reply:
"I am fine, thank you. And how are you?"
I hope that his has helped you