Hi MaryS! Welcome to WHL. I had to chuckle at the "House" comment. You do know that he FINALLY diagnosed a case of it about 2 years ago LOL.
I am really sorry for all that you and your partner have gone through! Although no one knows exactly what causes Lupus or other AI diseases there is a growing belief that many people have the potential for the disease in their body however they have to have a catalyst to "turn in on". Those catalyst are believed to include exposure to some sort of chemical, accidents, surgeries or even severe times of stress. Basically many of the things that he was involved in! I am so glad that you decided to join our WHL family! There are tons of people here which transfers to tons of information. Please feel free to look through the old posts or start new ones if you want. I look forward to getting to know you!