Your morals are perfectly OK. I had the same rules for my kids. I don't think kids should be able to dye their hair, I am surprised that some parents let their Primary age kids dye their hair. Well as far as letting your kids do whatever they want, as long as they live under your roof, they should live by your rules. If your kids work and make their own money, perhaps they can have some freedom, which could be colouring their hair. Day time dates seem fine to me, and not allowing sleep overs at people's houses that you do not know is very wise. Mind you, there are some people I know that I would not let my kids have a sleep over.
This is one person who has told you that you are doing everything wrong. What have other people told you? You don't have to listen to people like that who talk to you for a few minutes and make assumptions.
My duaghter, also autistic, was eating out of rubbish bins, off the floor, and stealing food off people's plates at resturants when she was 7. The paediatrician she was seeing at the time referred her to a neuologist because she was having alot of tics from Tourette's syndrom. This so called specialist ripped shreads off me telling me I was a bad parent. This was all because my daughter was running around the room and not doing anything I told her to do. The doctor asked her to draw a picture and she did. He summed up that I was a bad parent and the reason why she was eating out of rubbish bins, eating 9 weekbix in the mornings until she vomitted, would wake up in the middle of the night and eat 2 litres of ice cream, steal food out of other kids lunch boxes, steal food and lollies from the shops and shove them in her underpants (you get the picture) etc... was because she was rebelling because we had her on a restricted diet and she was just rebelling against me. Her GP put her on this diet because she would break out in rashes, vomit, get head aches etc when she ate certain food. When her GP found out how this specialist treated me, charging me a fortune to tell me there was nothing wrong with my kid, I made her into a terror, her GP hit the roof. He sent me off to a top psychiatrist, who taked to her for ages and reported that she was seriously mentally ill, and I was a fantastic mother. If I hadn't gone back to my GP, I would have believed that the neurologist told me. He also referred her to a new paediatrician who actually knew how to treat kids.
So Kim, this person has an opinion, and that is all it is, their opinion. You know how you care and look after your family, listen to your heart. Go back to your GP and ask to see someone else. No one needs to put up with people who have a piece of paper that says they are someone they obvously are not.
Last edited by Linda From Australia; 05-19-2011 at 07:37 AM.
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