Thanks for the information and supportive words
Hi rob, sick n tired, hatlady and mountaindreamer,
I can only begin to imagine what you have experienced and truly thank you for your time. Your comments are very helpful for me to understand better what my wife could be going through. I do wish I had discovered this site sooner and could have better supported her late last year when it seems she started changing somewhat. I do truly love her and support her as much as I can, but she wants neither from me at this time.
I did discuss some of the comments from your posts with her, but she doesn't believe they apply to her. From her research and readings, she discovered similar information but believes it relates to people in severe and constant pain and experiencing related difficulties -- which is not her right now. Although she is fatigued, has joint pain, frequent headaches (her last one was 2-1/2 days long), and daily ab pains with steady discomfort, she is still able to carry on daily routines at work and socially and therefore doesn't believe any personality changes could be related. She has said that the troubled months that we experienced in our relationship are what changed her, not the sickness. Although a true possibility, my trouble with this is her family feels a similar disconnect and lack of feeling from her.
One of my biggest fears is that she will drive a wedge between herself and the people that love her before she really needs their support and love.