Question for the men with lupus?
How do you motivate a guy to go to the doctor? My oldest brother has discoid lupus, but the last couple of days he's had symptoms that sound like pericarditis so I think he may be evolving to systemic lupus like me, but he says he can just "tough it out" like a bad cold. I've tried to convince him it doesn't work that way, but it's so far not working. I've already lost one brother to cancer because he didn't go see a doctor until his cancer was too advanced to be treatable, so I'm worried about my oldest brother and at the same time furious that he's being so stubborn. Sorry guys, I just don't get the macho thing. So short of drugging his coffee and physically dragging him, which isn't very practical since he's about a foot taller and 100 lbs. heavier, how do I convince him?
Thanks for the offer of help
I may need to take you up on it.
I am constantly frustrated by the VA and its minions, especially now when we are seeing more wounded and severely disabled soldiers than ever - how in the world are we going to take care of them when the VA can't even care for the veterans of previous wars. Just going to the VA hospital in Marion is enough to break your heart - I go with my sister sometimes when she drives her husband, and we talk to the kids there - and they are KIDS for the most part - such young faces and such very old eyes. Even though the advances in front-line casualty care are amazing, and soldiers are surviving injuries that would have probably been fatal in earlier wars, you have to wonder what quality of life they are going to have. But our Congress is actually cutting funds for research into rehabilitation for traumatic brain injury and prosthetics research even though we have more TBIs and multiple-amputees than ever because of IEDs, while still talking about how they support the troops! It is a shame and disgrace to our whole country.