one day at a time, one breath at a time..........
I'm so sorry. As others have told you, many women miscarry, and not just those who have something like Lupus.
I lost a set of twins on my third pregnancy. We both mourned their loss, but it made us very determined to try again.
My hubby left for Officer's training, which got him in great shape. He bought me a gym membership before he left, and I got into great shape.
When he graduated from OTS, it only took three weeks before our son was conceived!
So my advice to you, sweetie, is to do your mourning now. When you are ready, work on getting your health to the very best that it can be, and then work with your docs to try to conceive again.
Hang in there. We're all here for you!
I, too, just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. I also had two miscarriages due to this disease. I also gave birth to two beautiful children. I know that this loss is devastating to you, but it is not your fault. You did not go out and solicit this disease...you did nothing wrong to get this disease...you did nothing wrong because of this disease. What you are going through is a terrible, terrible loss, one that too many of us know about personally. But, please, please know that this was, in no way, your fault.
We are all here for you and we are wrapping our arms around you to bring you a bit of comfort during this difficult time. You are in my heart, my thoughts, and my prayers.
Peace and Blessings