1. trying for a baby

    Ive had lupus for 11 years, just turned 25 on monday and have been thinkin about starting a family, everytime I ask the doc, I'm always told that it would be very difficult for both me and the baby and could probably make my health a lot worse than it is. I really dont want lupus to dictate this part of my life, it has dictated everyother aspect of my life, I used to be a sporty child and had my life mapped out all I ever wanted to do is join the police and have kids, obv i cant join the police ...