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rob
02-24-2011, 12:26 PM
Hi guys,

Well, my father went in this morning for an angiogram, and they discovered multiple blockages. He was admittied immediately, and is being prepped for open heart surgery either this evening, or in the morning. They are going to do at least three, at at the most, five bypasses.

Dad had three stents put in about 12 years ago, and he takes very good care of himself. He HAS NOT had a heart attack, and there is no damage to any of the cardiac muscle tissue-this is very, very good. However, he probably would have had a heart attack in the coming months had they not discovered the blockages now.

Dad is in great spirits, is very alert and flirting with the nurses already. And, his famous sense of humor is still very intact. He's being typical dad-he's comforting all of us!

I need to head back to the hospital. I will let everyone know how things are going as soon as we know.

Rob

And to my friend Kim in Australia-I know you are going through a very tough time right now with your daughter, and I was going to write to you today to see how you are, and say hello. I'm afraid I can't write right now, but I wanted you to know I am thinking of you.

SandyR
02-24-2011, 12:50 PM
I'm sorry to hear that the sh*t-wagon has hit you now too. I will be saying prayers for Dad that things go well. It sounds like things are as good as can be, considering, since he was so good about taking care of himself and hasn't yet has trouble with the last surgery or blockage so I hope that means he is out of surgery and flirting with the nurses very soon.

Colleenc
02-24-2011, 12:52 PM
Remember to take care of yourself!!!!

tgal
02-24-2011, 02:01 PM
lIt is very good news that your dads doctors found this before any damage was done. As Colleen said please don't forget to take care of yourself. Although we all love you and miss you when you are not around we can manage until you return. Please keep us updated as you can and know that many good thoughts and prayers from different people will be with you.

red246
02-24-2011, 03:32 PM
Rob,
Will be keeping your father in my prayers that everything goes well. & Couldn't agree more w/everyone above, please don't forget to take care of yourself!

magistramarla
02-24-2011, 04:40 PM
Rob,
I'll be thinking of you and your Dad. Just think - Letterman, Robin Williams, Barbara Walters and several other celebrities have had the same surgery lately and now they are talking and joking about it.
I hope that all goes well for your Dad. Take good care of yourself, too.
Love and Hugs,
Marla

rob
02-24-2011, 05:58 PM
I just got back from the hospital. They are doing a bunch of tests right now, and they have not yet scheduled the surgery, so it won't be tonight. I guess they have to figure out where they will take the arterial grafts from, and that takes some time. They also have to determine if they will do the procedure with the heart stopped and the heart/lung machine running, or do it with the heart still beating.

So, right now things are very much in favor of a good outcome. The fact that there is no damage to the heart muscle, and that Dad is in excellent shape, really tips the scales in his favor. And, he has one of the most positive attitudes and outlooks on life of anyone I know, not to mention he's still tough as nails at the age of 75. I'm heading over to their house to see how mom is doing, and to keep her company for a bit. Then I have to try to get some sleep. I'll talk to you guys again when I know more.

Thank you all for kind words and support, they do indeed help!

Rob

Nonna
02-24-2011, 07:17 PM
Rob
just wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with your Dad and your family

hugs

Toni

tgal
02-24-2011, 07:46 PM
Thanks for the update Rob! Take care of your family but don't forget to take care of yourself as well. They need you as healthy as you can be

BonusMom
02-24-2011, 09:25 PM
Sorry that your dear, young Dad is facing surgery, but very relieved that he had no damage to the heart muscle and that he's otherwise in good shape.

It sounds like your father is quite the spry gentleman, flirting with the nurses as he's facing surgery ;). How refreshing that must be for the nurses instead of a cranky old geezer hehehe!

Best wishes to your Dad for a successful surgery and a speedy recovery. Afterall, he's got cars to wash and wax with Spring just around the corner.

Angel Oliver
02-25-2011, 12:53 AM
HI Rob,

Glad your dad is in good spirits and in good hands.I'll keep him in my thoughts and hope the op goes well for him.You take care also my friend.
love
Amanda.xxxx

debbie-b
02-25-2011, 04:45 AM
Hi Rob,

Just wanted to wish you and your dad the very best.
It is great, that he is in good shape and good spirits, that will make things easier.

Debbie

lovehubby
02-25-2011, 07:23 AM
Rob I wish your dad the best and I know what your family are going through waiting for the sugery to be over with. In 2001 my huband had a triple by-pass. He is a diabetic and didn't even know he had any blockages. He had what they call the widow maker like your father he was very lucky no heart muscle damaged . He has done very well, He did have a stent put in 3 years ago but is still doing well. So God Bless take care things will be just fine.
Hugs Michele

rob
02-26-2011, 01:01 PM
Hi guys,

After what seemed like a never-ending series of tests and preparations, they have scheduled the surgery for Monday morning @ 8:00 AM. For an active "do it now dammit" kind of person like my Dad, the waiting really sucks. But, the food is pretty good, and the staff at EMMC is just awesome. They actually have security staff at the main entrance who will park your car for you!

I spent a couple of hours with him during lunch, and he's in great spirits, and isn't worried about Monday. He's got his laptop, and plenty of movies to watch, as well as lots of reading material to stay busy with.

I've been helping Mom with various things. We got a foot of snow overnight, and I spent most of the morning snowblowing both of our driveways. I'm pretty much pooped at this point. Overall, everything is going as well as it can given the situation. We are worried, but the family is doing well, and we're looking out for each other, and leaning on whomever has the strongest shoulder at the time.

As for me, I'm going to take a really long nap. I'll say hello when I can. Thanks for being there everyone!

Rob

tgal
02-26-2011, 02:09 PM
Thanks for the update Rob! I am glad he is doing well and I am really glad you are finding time to rest as well. Please keep us updated as you can. Your entire family is in my thoughts

Bonita
02-26-2011, 02:27 PM
My prayers are with your whole family and Dad will be okay. Love Bonita

BonusMom
02-26-2011, 03:18 PM
Thanks for the update, Rob. I hope that you and your Mom both get ample rest so neither of you end up in a flare over the nasty stress from the impending surgery. Yes, waiting is very difficult when you're a get 'er done kinda guy.

Refreshing to hear that your family is rallying 'round and supporting one another......

Take care.

Nonna
02-26-2011, 05:59 PM
Rob, thanks for the update; my thoughts and prayers are with your Dad and your whole family

Nonna

rob
02-27-2011, 04:51 PM
I just got done talking to Dad, and he's doing well. He's more than ready for tomorrow. I asked him if he was worried, and I got his usual answer of "No, not really". The funny thing is that he's not just saying that to comfort those around him-he really means it.

The man has been a quarterback, a U.S. Marine, and an accomplished pilot. He's protected Presidents, and has brought some of the worlds worst criminals to justice. After all of that, a quadruple bypass is just a little bump in the road for him.

I'm heading over to Eastern Maine Med Center at 5am to spend a little time with him before the big show. It's going to be a long night, and long day tomorrow. But tomorrow will turn out OK. I really believe that.

Rob

tiggerlishus - Heidi
02-28-2011, 05:39 AM
just want to say thinknig of you and family today hoping all goes well i know that worry my grandad had triple heart by pass when he was 70 and i remember sitting next to the phone biting my nails and thankfully all going well!! and hearing you talk abotu your dad i'm sure his will to! so just make sure you rest whilst he's in hosp and cause i'm sure your busy when he comes out trying to get im to rest!

keep us informed much love from over the pond xx

SandyR
02-28-2011, 08:18 AM
I just got done talking to Dad, and he's doing well. He's more than ready for tomorrow. I asked him if he was worried, and I got his usual answer of "No, not really". The funny thing is that he's not just saying that to comfort those around him-he really means it.

The man has been a quarterback, a U.S. Marine, and an accomplished pilot. He's protected Presidents, and has brought some of the worlds worst criminals to justice. After all of that, a quadruple bypass is just a little bump in the road for him.

I'm heading over to Eastern Maine Med Center at 5am to spend a little time with him before the big show. It's going to be a long night, and long day tomorrow. But tomorrow will turn out OK. I really believe that.

Rob

sounds like he's got that good ole Hoo-Yah! spirit! Good for him! I hope surgery went as well as was expected and he's up and about tinkering with all his toys soon.

tgal
02-28-2011, 08:22 AM
My thoughts are with all of you today. Please let us know how it goes

mountaindreamer
02-28-2011, 08:38 AM
hi rob,

i am thinking or you and your dad today. He is a tough "old goat", and has faced this surgery with the self-assurance that he has developed over the past 75 years.

i will check back later for a report...don't forget to also take care of yourself.

Oluwa
02-28-2011, 11:16 AM
Rob...In my prayers your Dad, Mom, you and the family are...modern medicine, technology is amazing.

Love and hugs,
Oluwa

rob
02-28-2011, 02:28 PM
Hi everyone,

Everything went well. There were a few minor snags that added another two hours to the procedure, but nothing that will have a negative effect upon the overall outcome. They did 5 bypasses. I saw Dad about two hours ago, and he was still coming out of the anesthesia, and had a breathing tube still in. He should be awake and alert by this evening.

The worst is behind him now. Thank you all for all of your prayers and well wishes. Knowing I would come home to them really felt good. I started my day at 3:30am, and in the middle of all of this, we've had another snowstorm, so between the hospital and snowblowing two driveways again, I'm totally exhausted.

Mom will be there when he wakes up this evening, and Karen and I are heading back over in the morning to relieve her and hang out with Dad. They said he should be sitting up and able to talk by morning.

So, all is well! Thank you all for being here for my family and I. Right now, I have a rather serious looking blond lady ordering me to go get some sleep, so I'd better do what she says!

Rob

Bonita
02-28-2011, 03:25 PM
Glad to hear the good news. Bonita

tgal
02-28-2011, 03:46 PM
Whooo hooo! I am so glad it all went well! Get a good nights rest so you will be feeling good tomorrow for the visit. Thanks so much for updating us~

serand4
02-28-2011, 04:10 PM
My dad has been through the stints and the major bipass and he's done just great. They are genuis at this stuff now. As far as the nurses, I'm not the least bit surprised! Nothing like a guy to have a bunch of pretty, capable women whose main mission is to serve! Another reason I went into Journalism!

Keep us posted and I have complete faith that your dad will come out not only well, but better than ever before!

debbie-b
02-28-2011, 06:04 PM
Rob,

Glad to hear your dad has this behind him now. Now he can keep doing what he loves to do.
I am sure tomorrow morning he will be joking around with the nurses again.

Debbie

Nonna
02-28-2011, 06:58 PM
Thanks for letting us know everythings ok. Please give your parents our love and tell them i said they raised you up fantastically well.

hugs to you all
Toni

BonusMom
02-28-2011, 10:02 PM
Yeah for your Dad and sweet dreams to you!

SandyR
03-01-2011, 07:49 AM
I am so glad to hear about your dad. The snow- you can keep it. Did they give you an expected discharge date yet? Stay well and rest up - don't want you sick too.

rob
03-01-2011, 03:33 PM
We went and visited Dad this morning, and he is indeed sittng up and talking, just like the Dr. said. He's a bit groggy, but mentally sharp, and his sense of humor is back in full force. And of course, he wanted to talk about cars, and what our next restoration project should be!

I cannot tell you how big of a relief this is. The worst of this is now behind him. As for me, I'm pretty much physically and emotionally drained. But, that's nothing a bit of sleep, and less worrying can't fix. It's been really hard for Mom, but today she said she feels like a huge weight has been lifted from her shoulders.

As far as a discharge date, they don't really have one yet, but the Dr. said that 4 to 6 days of recovery in the hospital is usually the norm.

Rob

red246
03-01-2011, 04:29 PM
Rob,
So glad to hear that everything went well! Now you can all breath a big sign of relief and get some much needed rest before he comes home. (((hugs)))

tgal
03-01-2011, 05:02 PM
I am SOOO very glad that everything went as planned! I know you have to be exhausted so please get some rest! Remember that if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of them

Nonna
03-01-2011, 05:24 PM
i'm gonna ditto everything that mari said.......

DITTO BIG TIME!!!!!!
especially the part of taking care of youself so you can take care of them

tiggerlishus - Heidi
03-02-2011, 02:13 AM
WOOOHOOOO that fantastic new rob!! glad is good adn went well!! now you rest up xxx

Saysusie
03-02-2011, 08:43 AM
Oh Rob; I was holding my breath for you and praying for you and your Dad...then to read that he is up, talking, joking, and ready to start on the next renovation project made my heart sing. It is so amazing what new technology can do, especially with any type of heart surgery. And the fact that he could be home in 4-5 days, that is absolutely amazing.
Your Dad apparently had inside information that the rest of us did not have..he NEVER was afraid, never doubted his prognosis, and came out kicking! What a inspiration he is :-) I am so happy for you and your family and wish that I could meet this wonderful person that you call DAD.
Are you getting some rest my friend? I am so glad that everything is going well and I know that both you and he are anxious for him to get home and get back to doing those things that you love to do together.
Please take care of you now!! Sending you warm hugs..much love to you, your Dad and your entire family :-)

Peace and Blessings Always
Namaste
Saysusie

mountaindreamer
03-02-2011, 10:41 AM
hi rob,

what wonderful news of your dad's surgery and his subsequent recovery. i can tell by all of your stories that he is an amazing man, and i know the two of you will be back in the garage as soon as the snow melts.

hope you are now able to get some rest and take care of yourself. I am glad that you have a stern lady watching out for you...

magistramarla
03-02-2011, 10:06 PM
Hi Rob,
I'm so very glad that your Dad sailed through the surgery so well.
I'm sorry to be late to returning here - I've been a bit out of it for a couple of days with a bad sinus headache. Reading the computer screen was painful!
I hope that you are taking care of yourself and not overdoing it. I'm also glad that you have Karen there to watch over you!
Hugs,
Marla

rob
03-03-2011, 03:23 AM
Today they are moving Dad out of the Cardiac Care Unit, and into a regular room. They only do this if the patient is stable and making serious progress, so this is another very positive step. I visited him yesterday, and he's looking better each day. His color is good, and he's also eating solid food now with no problems.

When I saw him right after surgery, he was still under, and on a breathing tube. Seeing him totally helpless like that, well, that was a hard thing to see. I found myself suddenly being very protective of him, like I was the parent. Needless to say, seeing him sitting up the very next day, talking, and joking around with the staff, was a beautiful sight, and a massive relief.

I've never had to deal with anything like this before, I guess those feelings are normal. I guess I unknowingly took on the role of reassuring everyone and trying to ease their anxiety and worry. I think I did OK, at least I hope I did.

I'm feeling really ragged out, and I think the intensity of the past week has finally caught up with me. I need to try to disconnect and relax. Now that the worst part of this is behind us, I think I can finally take a step back and relax.

Rob

~LUVMYFLOWERS~
03-03-2011, 03:48 AM
Hi Rob, Sure hope you are resting up and feeling better. Im a little late in finding out
about your dad's surgery with all thats been going on with me from dr. to dr.
But i wanted you to know that Ill will keep you and your dad in my prayers!!!!!
Big Hug's to you and your dad !!!!!!!!!!!! And hope you have a pain free weekend!
~Diane~

Nonna
03-03-2011, 03:50 AM
You do need to take some time for yourself. Rob, why don't you fix a good breakfast and watch some scifi movies and drift around the world of fantasy and relax.

As for feeling the parent of your parent, as they age and we age the roles seem to reverse. I am also dealig with this. But my parents are so proud to be so independant at their age it's hard


Go watch some scifi and relax
hugs
toni

and not to forget your dad, so glad they are moving him to a regular room

hugs

SandyR
03-03-2011, 07:48 AM
I'm so glad to hear that your dad is doing well. Now please go rest up some so that you don't end up sick as well. They'll probably need your help when he gets home for a few days and you will need your strength for that. *saying prayers you don't flare from the stress*

Linda From Australia
03-03-2011, 07:57 AM
Great to hear about your dad's progress. You are such a good son

rob
03-03-2011, 08:34 AM
I'm so glad to hear that your dad is doing well. Now please go rest up some so that you don't end up sick as well. They'll probably need your help when he gets home for a few days and you will need your strength for that. *saying prayers you don't flare from the stress*

That is a great reminder, and the best advice I've heard in a while. I definitely will be needed when he comes home, and in that first week at home. Everybody is pitching in though, and it really helps. It also doesn't hurt that we have a geriatrics specialist and a surgeon in the family to help explain things and to let us know what to expect.

Thank you Sandy. As always, you are awesome.

In fact, all of you are awesome. Just knowing that I have all of your kind words waiting here for me to read at the end of the day really helps. I know I've already said it, but I'll say it again-

Thank you all for all you do. And thank you Mari for minding the store while I've been away.

tgal
03-03-2011, 08:54 AM
What wonderful news, Rob! I agree completely with Sandy about taking care of yourself. I have to tell you that I had a soft smile when you began talking about taking on the possessive role. I believe it is a natural things. My mom died about 7 years ago. She cancer and then it spread to her brain. I was her caretaker and I don't know how or why it happens but I did that same exact thing. The roles reversed and it was almost like I was the mother and she was the child. I believe it is just part of the circle of life. When I was young she took care of me and as she became older and ill I took care of you. It says a lot about you as a person to hear that you took that role, if only for a short time, with your Dad.

I am so glad he is getting better and please take care of yourself and don't worry about this place. Thankfully we have an awesome membership so there are very few issues (not counting smilies and the arcade which we can't fix anyway!).

Rest well my friend

jmail
03-04-2011, 07:39 AM
When he gets out, get yourself & your dad, a couple fishing poles, can of bait, and do some "Sittin' On The Dock Of The Bay (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMaRqvMsiEM)" fer a spell. Wrong coast he's singing about, but it can apply here too...

Saysusie
03-04-2011, 12:09 PM
Rob;
Have you been able to get some rest? I read your post about the rash on your hand and it does sound like the stress is catching up with you now :-(
Sending you soft hugs and hoping that you feel better soon. I am so happy that your Dad is progressing well!!

Peace and Blessings
Namaste
Saysusie

rob
03-04-2011, 05:04 PM
I spent a couple of hours with Dad, and we went for a walk around the wing where his room is. He had the walker in front of him, but didn't really need it. He had a great lunch-fettucini alfredo, shrimp scampi, and lobster chowder. The food at EMMC is really good! They also took out the chest tube today, and we are looking at him coming home sometime Monday.

He basically told me that at this point I can "stand down" so to speak, and basically ordered me to take it easy this weekend, and take care of myself. Karen will make sure that I do indeed follow his advice! Everybody noticed the rash on my hands, and the fact that I look and sound really tired.

When he goes home, he's going to have a nurse help out for a few hours each day, so that will definitely make things easier for Mom, and it will also take some of my worries away as well.

Rob

rob
03-04-2011, 05:10 PM
Jmail,

That's so funny! We were talking today about our boating plans for this summer. Our boat is coming out of storage at the end of April, and we will definitely be doing plenty of sailing, kayaking, and fishing come May when the marina opens. I often find myself mesmerized watching the boats out in the harbor coming and going, and I hum that song to myself often!

tiggerlishus - Heidi
03-05-2011, 02:48 AM
just been catching up your updates and its all great news fantastic and thank you for keeping us dated!!

relaxing bosting and fishing sounds like perfect medcine for you both!!

nothing like being round nature specially water to help you relax and heal! we did that very thing yesterday so i thought i would share the photos with you to get you that fix straight away! x

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rob
03-07-2011, 07:05 PM
Dad is staying in the hospital one more day, or possibly two. He was supposed to be home today, but the cardiologist wanted to do one more minor procedure. Dad's been having some atrial fibrilation while walking, so today the did a procedure that basically shocks the heart muscle and gets it back into a proper rhythm and timing. The cardiologist is the best in the state, and is very thorough in his attention to detail. I like that. This is a fairly common thing after doing a multiple bypass, so it's no biggie.

Rob

tgal
03-07-2011, 08:45 PM
Thanks for the update, Rob. I know it is disappointing but the hospital is the best place for him right now. Please try and take care of yourself. He will need you when he gets home and I am afraid you are going to be down with a really bad flare. We all worry about you.

Nonna
03-07-2011, 09:32 PM
Rob, good news, hugs to you all

wolfwhisper
03-07-2011, 11:18 PM
Thanks for the updates. Everything's positive and he should be home soon! xxxx

Linda From Australia
04-18-2011, 05:56 AM
Rob how is your dad going? Has he started racing yet?