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02-18-2010, 05:37 PM
hi everyone mikaela went for phycological appointment for her being bullied at school yesterday it broke my heart to listen to her the doctor ask her what would be her 3 wishes if granted and she replied that mummy and daddy live forever and that she could feel safe and that mommy and daddy and her could feel happy again she also said she wishes mommy and daddy were not sick all the time she is so frightened that i am going to die from lupus. i have not been able to get her back to school this week she does not want to go and at home she is so frightened were we live she will not open windows or doors and sits in living room with handle of broomstick i amnot having any luck with transfer i want to put her in different school and take her to area where she feels safe. she is so unhappy i am worried about her health me having lupus and being unwell is so frightening for her and i do not know how to make it better i want my little girl to feel happy and not think she has to look after her father and me we are the parents she should not have this stress i am really concerned and it breaks my heart to see her go through so much pain having lupus is affecting my whole family and i feel so much guilt for putting this on all of them. thanks for listening hugs kim ps hope you are all having great day love kim l
02-19-2010, 03:39 PM
My heart goes out to you and Mikaela. You need to keep fighting to get your family moved to a better neighborhood. I think that the whole family's health would improve. We always want to protect our kids from pain, and I know that you feel bad about Mikaela being worried about you. Look at it this way, though - it shows that she is a caring person, too. So many teens don't care at all what happens to their parents. It shows that she has a loving family, and that she loves them back.
02-20-2010, 01:25 AM
Thankyou marla she is a wonderful caring child but she stresses to much hugs kim l
02-20-2010, 07:03 AM
I am very sorry that this is happening to you and your family. No one deserves to be treated this way especially and innosence child. But the people who do this will get what they derserve i believe in what goes around comes around. Love and prayers to all of you. Bonita
02-22-2010, 12:22 PM
I am so sorry to hear of your daughter's unhappiness and fear. I just cannot understand why they are making it so difficult for you to transfer. I agree that, being able to do so, would be good for your entire family.
You are doing the right thing by being straightforward and honest with your daughter about your issues and your husband's issues and by giving her an opportunity to speak with someone about how she feels. You are a very good mother and that is why she cherishes you so.
I hope that the issue with her bullies gets resolved and I am sending you and your family my prayers.
Peace and Blessings
02-22-2010, 04:16 PM
thankyou susie well i have had enough after numerous letters and phone calls not being answered and complaints been made about transfer and also the state of the house and repairs needed we have been pushed to far when we discovered a pest problem that was caused from previous tenants i have ben complaining since we moved in about carpets and the smell so before christmas after 2 attempts at steam cleaning carpets we removed them for health reasons and this released a bug problem i have complained we have had to throw out beds and linen and clothes we have used pest control bombs 3 times to no avail my daughter mikaela has had severe reaction to bites i went in her room the other night and found them crawling on her we immediately removed furniture and bedding she is covered in rash all over her body we are now getting bit we took her to doctor she wrote letter demanding they do something as she is very worried about mikaela and me because of my immune system when i contacted them yesterday they said it was not there problem i should pay exterminator the cost is 800 dollars which i do not have my daughter has no furniture and it looks like we will lose our bed. i demanded that they come to the house they said they would yesterday i sat around al day they didnot turn up or even have the decency to give me a call after all i had to cancel specialist appointment for my husband he has been waiting 3 months for and wil now have to wait 1 month for lung specialist so i have been pushed to breaking point last night i sent email to the housing minister complaining of the treatment i have recieved and demanding that they either transfer us or fix the problem or give us temporary alternative accomodation till our transfer be comes available and that it is there responsibility to pay for exterminator that i have the right for my family to live in healthy enviroment i also pointed that they are quick to take my rent money but when it comes to repairs refuse to do anything and i will no longer except this treatment and i am prepared to take my complaints to the highest levels and that we are human beings and deserve to be treated with respect. also mikaela went back to school today she is so very stressed and upset she is so scared of being hurt this worries me extremely and i am so severly stressed right now that i have become unwell in severe pain and very fatigued. hopefully things will get better soon thankyou all for listening and caring love and hugs kim l
02-22-2010, 05:35 PM
Kim I am so proud of you for writing that email. I am sorry to hear that the housing board continues to bully and abusee you and your family, but I am proud of you for writing that letter. If you lived around here, I would call the news station for you so they could play your story on the air and help pressure the housing board to move you and the schools to take accountability for the safety of the children who attend there. I know you are tired of all this fight and I am continually amazed with your strength and spirit. You and your family are in my heart and prayers my friend. I will continue to lift you up to God and ask for some assistance for you to arrive soon.
02-22-2010, 06:05 PM
thankyou sandy you are a good friend i have no choice but to still fight my families wellbeing is my main concern and i am sick of people walking all over me i had begun to give up the fight last week but realised if i don,t fight these people and my illness it would destroy my family and they are my life i have wonderful loving husband and my beautiful mikaela to worry about and my darling sarah and my son even though he is alot of stress he is my son and i love him. hugs kim l be well my friend.
02-22-2010, 07:44 PM
YES! That is exactly the attitude and mindset you need to carry yourself through this fight!!!!!
02-22-2010, 08:55 PM
You go, girl! Keep fighting.
Sandy had a good idea. Do the news channels where you live ever help people with getting help when they've been cheated, mistreated, etc.? Do you have anything like a health department that you can talk to? There should be standards for health and safety that the housing office should have to uphold. Keep investigating and keep complaining.
02-22-2010, 10:10 PM
thankyou marla and sandy yes there is news networks i can call and that is my next step if i donot get any reply from health minister or member of parliament also i will also make phone call to health department thanks for suggestions i will not give up fighting for my family hugs kim l
02-24-2010, 01:18 PM
Good for you and good for you making demands. You are absolutely right, you deserve to live in decent housing and the law requires that they provide decent housing and that you are treated with respect. No, it is not your job to exterminate, it is theirs.
Have you had any response from the housing minister?? Continue to keep good documentation about the way they've responded to you, their failure to address your issues, and their failure to provide decent housing or acceptable alternatives. Do not give up the fight because you are fighting for your basic rights!
How was Mikaela's day back at school? Please keep us posted as we are all rooting for you!
Peace and Blessings
02-24-2010, 06:55 PM
thankyou susie mikaela has now been provided with a teacher to protect her she does not enter the playground at recesses or lunch instead she eats in seperate area and has been given access to computers and other activities. at this stage this the only alternative i have for her safety until i get transfer. hugs kim l
02-25-2010, 08:09 AM
I just wanted to say that I admire your perserverence with regards to your family - especially while sick with this disease. I am praying your family is given a better locsation/enviroment soon, and that your Mikelas school issues are addressed as well. There has been ALOT of national attention to the bullying issue here in the US lately and states are passing laws that hold these schools responsible when nothing is done.
Hpoing there is peace in your family soon
02-25-2010, 02:10 PM
Kim; I am glad that she is being protected and not feeling like she's being punished. The school staff should be held responsible for protecting children while they are there. We do not send our children to school to be terrorized! I hope that this arrangement gives you a bit more peace of mind.
I've been seeing and reading a lot about bullies also. I am glad that this is becoming a national issue. My sweet Lauri was a fragile child all of her life and had to endure some horrendous bullying. In High School, I confronted several of the girls myself and had to get ghetto with them..I threatened to beat the S@!# out of them every time I saw them and told them that my hubby was the Captain in the police department, so calling the cops would do them no good at all. If they touched my daughter again, I was going to make every effort to make them dead. In fact, they had better protect her cuz if she came home with a scratch or a bruise, I was coming for their A@#!s and I wouldn't stop until I caused lifelong pain.
(Oh, this is the second post I've made where I've hinted at my ability to be violent...I better be careful!)
Anyway, that was probably the totally wrong way to handle bullies, but I just could not bear another tear from my daughter's eyes - especially given that she was already dealing with so much!
Peace and Blessings
02-25-2010, 09:43 PM
We've been seeing a whole different side of you today. I sure hope that you get over your violent mood soon!
I know that we can be real "Momma Cats" when it comes to our kids. I've raised three "Momma Cats" too. They are all fiercely protective of their little boys. Meg was just describing to me how she had to watch a rather inept nurse trying to get Ryan's blood oxygen levels and trying to take blood. She told me that she wanted to scratch the nurse's eyes out for hurting her baby. At least I don't have to worry about the safety of my grandsons.
Have a calming night, girlfriend.