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kim,l
02-12-2010, 06:11 PM
well hi everyone well all of you know of my daughter mikaelas health issues at the moment she goes for liver scan on monday and has to see phycologist on thursday for the bullying issues at school as well as her problems associated with her aspergers and autism well the stupid sports teacher was told she was not to play sports because of her headaches and balance problems as well as her stomach problems well this teacher decided to play dodge ball and threw balls at mikaela she has bruises to her stomach back and headaches from being hit in the head and had to have more time off school all because of stupid teacher you would think they would have more common sense after all she has epilepsy as well i am so angry she is also having series of blood tests to check for lupus and other diseases as if i didnot have enough to worry about with my health and stephen being sick and mikaela health issues they just add to them also i got on to goverment housing about my transfer no one will return my calls the only reply i got was just after christmas when one operator said donot sweat it you will get it when you get it. they were more concerned with the fact that there airconditioner had gone on the blink. and when i pointed out that i am so sorry they are concerned about there airconditioner but i have not been able to have shower for a year and was washing in handbasin he proceeded to tell me that this was not his concern but they were entitled to good working conditions and i said i was entitled to good living conditions he hung up on me. being in this place is depressing me very much. than ks for listening kim l hugs everyone and have great day love kim l

SandyR
02-12-2010, 06:49 PM
that story about the sports teacher makes me so angry! How dare he take her health into his hands. He knew he had a medical condition. I hope you have reported him. Here in the states, a teacher could get fired or lose their teaching license for an incident like that. How is Mikaela now?
That operator who told you their AC is more of a concern than your shower is a disgrace. Does your social worker fight for you with the housing board? Do you put these incidents in writing to track what has occured? Have you written them a formal complaint? Have you considered a public defender/attorney to help advocate your rights for you? Ridiculous to compare the comfort and luxury of air conditioning to the basic daily living activity that is washing. I would call every week, every day even, and complain. Write down dates and names and numbers. Write letters. Make it so they KNOW your name when you call. Make it so they know your VOICE and can't forget you. Make it so they wish so bad you were gone that they do everything you need done to get rid of you. You deserve to live in a healthy environment and good living conditions.
BTW - any news on all those medical tests? How's Stephen? How are you? And Sarah? Is your son still there?

mountaindreamer
02-12-2010, 07:25 PM
hi kim,

i am continuously amazed at how some physical education teacers are oblivious to the problems that some of their students face. I am so sorry that Mikaela was treated that way. I hope she is doing better today.

Hooray for you.....you let that guy on the phone know what you are going through... It is unfortunate that is he more concerned about his air conditioning.

take care....i know things have to change around soon....you deserve the best, and i hope you get it soon.

wolfwhisper
02-12-2010, 07:52 PM
I don't know much about Mr. Airconditioner, but you need to contact your county health department. It's not tolerable in the US as it is sub-standared and against most county health rules. About the school though, I'd suggest lodging a complaint to the school board about the teacher. Also send in a doctor's note and a note written by you and give it to whoever it concerns about physical education. Have it make sure that it says that she can't have strenuos exercises due to health concerns. Also, you can look into suing the teacher himself as his actions could cause further health concerns. He has no right to be puting people in danger like that. What would he do if something had happened?

Good job with Mr. AC, by the way. He diserved it! You have the right to complain about things, especially when it's illegal in your area. Also, make sure you document everything. Get it signed by an attorney if you need to. I wish you the best of luck. I hope Mikaela is feeling better, and I hope you get everything situated quickly. Remember to find the time to try relax and de-stress.
Nicole

abbasgirl
02-13-2010, 11:33 AM
Oh Kim! ((((Hugs)))) upon (((Hugs)))

I wish you weren't way over there so we could come over and help out. I'd personally love to go have a talk with the PE teacher!

I agree with Sandy's idea of being a pain in the hiney to the people about moving to better accommodations. I think that is an excellent idea. You handled that well, Kim. Maybe giving them a dose of that once a week will drive them to get it in gear. How do people like that get in job positions where they're supposed to help others? And why would they want to do that for a living anyways when it's obvious they don't really care about people? Some people!!

pandagirl
02-13-2010, 12:51 PM
My town has banned dodge-ball from gym class altogether...they are so worried about getting sued that the kids are barely allowed to do anything physically active anymore. I do know that a girl in my daughters 6 th grade gym class has CP and is very limited but they try to include her in most activities to a degree within her limits..your PE teacher sounds like a loony and I would go see them face to face if you are up to it.

magistramarla
02-13-2010, 10:13 PM
I've been in teachers' inservice activities with the coaches and I was appalled at their ignorance. Most of the school districts in Texas are so concerned with winning football teams that I think that a coach could be a total moron and still be hired, as long as he can get the boys to win football games. The coaches never had any respect or empathy for our kids with health problems. When the kids complained to me about a coach, I would get on the phone with our school nurse and she would go to their office and give them a piece of her mind. Could you get the school nurse to be on Mikaela's side?
You hang in there and keep fighting for a decent place to live, Kim. I agree with the others - keep calling and making a nuisance of yourself until you get some results, and don't forget to document everything.
Gentle Hugs,
Marla

kim,l
02-14-2010, 01:12 AM
thanks everyone for your concern i have documented everything sent numerous doctors reports specialist reports and wrote many letters the last one was 7 pages it was to the supervisor of the section of housing i am with but when i made enquiry why i had not heard from her i got told they have a pecking order and if she didnot think it was important enough she would not read it and apparently i am not important enough also i rang them to tell them my flooring was falling apart and they told me that was not important enough and maybe they would look at in the near future we had this disgusting carpet in here which had a terrible smell and my brother- inlaw took it up and we dumped it now all we have is the old vinyl which is falling apart the only problem is there must have been bugs aunder the carpet and now i have to get pest control in to try and get rid of them they are really bad in mikaelas room she has bites all over her and when she goes to school they ask her what they are i feel so ashamed everyday i vacum and steam floors and i steam the curtains and the matresses every week and wash sheets twice a week i have had a big clean up but still the bugs are still here i am so very tired all this work has made me very sore and fatigued and i am having to take pain killers stephen is doing his best but he is sick at the moment with a return of ross river fever and his memory has deteriated very much in the last month i am constantly having to repeat myself this is taking its toll on me i am just so tired . mikaela,s autism has her obssessive behaviours ramping up both at home and at school she sees physcologist for the bullying and her autism this week at the childrens hospital. sarah has been doing well with her mental illness but in the last week she has been having terrible flash backs to being molested by my sister and her partner and this is affecting her. my son is still here and i have told him he has 3 weeks to find a job or he will have to fiind alternative accomodation his behaviour is disgusting. my mother rings me constantly mentioning my sister which is very upsetting to me she just seems to think because my sister took her own life i should just forget and forgive her but i just cannot especially when i see sarah struggling with flashbacks but i just cannot get my mother to back off she just does not listen when i say i donot want to hear my sister being mentioned. all up i am so depressed and this annoys me because i feel so good andhopeful one week and then depressed the next. thanks everyone for listening i also wish i lived near you all but thats the way it is i am blessed with having my motherinlaw near by she is also my friend hugs and love kim have a great day everyone.

magistramarla
02-14-2010, 07:48 PM
Oh, Kim
We're all here for you, sweetie. Hang in there.
Hugs,
Marla

mabeljane
02-15-2010, 09:34 AM
Hi Kim, I am new, but was very moved by your posts. Yours daughter is being treated appallingly at her school, and you must take any action you can to support her and keep her safe from these unbelievably ignorant people!!! I am so sorry yoour other daughter has these problems due to other family members. Your mlother probably can only think that she has lost her daughter, and not c oncentrating on what happened with Sarah, I'm sure its not deliberate. As for the housing, thats disgusting behaviour to talk to you like you dont matter!! i am so glad you have your mother in law nearby who is a support and comfort to you. Take care of yourself and your lovely family, thinking of you and lots of ((((((hugs))))))

kim,l
02-15-2010, 06:40 PM
thankyou marla for your support and thankyou mabeljane for your kind words and welcome to our family we have a lot of wonderful kind and loving people here . hugs kim l

SandyR
02-15-2010, 08:19 PM
kim,
Have you sent them pictures? You know they say a picture is worth a 1,000 words? Well, keep pestering them until they realize that you are really the on who is wronged. Send them photos. Keep documenting. It is all very tired and draining and I know you are working hard to improve this situation and that it is easy for us all to say "Don't give up" and "It'll get better" but really these things are true and hopefully they will come true very soon. I know someone as sweet and wonderful and you deserves so much better treatment from those around her and I wish I could somehow move the obstacles out of your way for you. What's that saying, God fives us what we can handle and no more? I know you are handling this so much better and with more grace then I ever could imagine myself doing and I applaud you and I am praying for you. (((HUGS)))
Sandy