View Full Version : On Trust. On Truth. On Honesty
08-12-2009, 05:53 AM
He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much. Luke 16:10
Honesty is also not just how we speak to others, but also how we speak to ourselves. While humility and modesty is a good thing, being too harsh on yourself is not being truthful.
It is important for us to find a balance of knowing our blessings and shortcomings so we can continue to grow.
When we are dishonest with ourselves, with others if chips away at our spirit, our faith and our trust in one another and ourselves. Dishonesty causes us to doubt who we are. It causes such mistrust, mistrust in our relationship with others, with God and with ourselves.
It is work being honest in every way, little lies as to not hurt our friends and etc but it rids our conscience of such a tremendous weight and strengthens our faith.
We can also find forgiveness in being truthful.
Being honest is about following in God's footsteps, for He cannot lie.
08-13-2009, 11:13 PM
Wonderfully said. It is, indeed, difficult sometimes to be honest and even little lies chip away at us. The saddest part is the mistrust that it generates. Once trust has been lost, it can never be fully recovered again. It is a loss that adversely affects the dishonest person as markedly as it affects those who have been affected by the dishonesty!
Forgiveness is a powerful redemption, especially when it is given in love and accepted in humility. It can heal many wounds.
Thank You Oluwa
Peace and Blessings
08-15-2009, 01:02 PM
Amen and Amen!
08-16-2009, 09:05 PM
I second that abbasgirl, AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
08-18-2009, 06:14 AM
trust is so fragile....it is the strength that guides us, but whenever questions arise, the trust can shatter into a million pieces and it becomes difficult to know which pieces to pick up.
08-18-2009, 06:25 AM
I'm not sure if I understand the reason for this thread.
Most people can not handle honesty and the truth. I for one have to watch every word I say so as not to offend the other person. Is this being honest and truthful? No its not. If I ask a question I want the other persons honest opinion no matter how it makes me feel. The answer might be the wake up call I need.
08-19-2009, 04:58 PM
I'm not too sure either Grime...but it's good.
I like honest answers too.
Phyllis, that was beautifully said.
08-21-2009, 01:30 PM
Yes i like this thread,some lovely replies.I am always honest,i am just me.I like all the replies especially yours Phyllis,very true words indeed.
08-22-2009, 12:30 PM
Its for the reader to extract whatever they feel it to mean....He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much. Luke 16:10
If we lie about small things we will lie about big things...and if we are honest about little things we can be honest about big things...trust.
.....being too harsh on yourself is not being truthful....Times while having Lupus we criticize ourselves in our head, belittling, saying we are lazy, ugly, fat, hypochondriacs, terrible spouses, wives, daughters and sons because we can't be all the people we want to be to the people we love. We are none of those things.
And by telling these untruths to ourselves we chip away at our spirit, how we feel in our day and not doubt set us on the vicious circle Lupus thrives on.
Untruths also widdles down our friendship when we are not honest with our friends, family or strangers.
No one is perfect, only God is..so we strive for honesty...and follow in God's footsteps. No one is without sin....
Being honest it a hard path to walk, as we don't want to hurt peoples feelings, but sometimes if we choose different words, phrase it differently they may not come across as being offensive. Honesty doesn't have to hurt....
And when we aren't honest with ourselves, with others it creates mistrust. If those we love see us being dishonest, that creates a relationship of mistrust with them and us....a mistrust rarely spoken of...
When we tell ourselves negative things that causes us to not like ourselves very much and we begin not to trust our own judgment.
And I see, we all took something from it..read it differently just like how I meant it to be read....Interpretation.
Happy day today....
08-22-2009, 01:30 PM
You know what,i do say horrible things to myself all the time like...im ugly...im to fat....noone likes me.....i CARNT do this or that......and yes sometimes i definitely do not trust my own judgment as i dont believe in myself.Or i will see a wrong,act on it,then regret saying something,like my sister wore a coat,it looked bad so i told her nicely,she was so upset,so i backtracked to take away her pain...where really i should have stook to my word.I always feel bad when people are upset because of me.So i have allot to learn and gain confidence and learn to get tough in a good way with myself. I am a people pleaser,i see it sometimes,but i am learning slowly this is making me sad inside to be afraid of everyone all the time.try not to upset so they feel good yet i feel bad.How do i change this?I am trying.
08-22-2009, 05:17 PM
I think each time we stand our ground, be firm in our convictions ..our values it will come easier Amanda....
It is okay to make people feel good but not at the cost of our own conscientious, our values...I think. I think each time we do that we lose a bit of our self...and some times our own self respect.
I've seen you snaps, you're a babe, a knock out..gorgeous smile, baby blues...a cute girl figure....I wish you could see it. And I do hope you see what we feel..your heart of gold.
08-23-2009, 03:05 AM
Ah Oluwa thank you and i so hope it does become easier and thanks for the compliment.
08-28-2009, 09:45 AM
Wow Oluwa; I couldn't have said it better..I wanted to say the same things to Amanda but I'll just ride your coat tails on this one!!
Peace and Blessings
12-19-2010, 06:58 AM
This is an old thread. But I feel it's especially good and relevant to the here and now. Especially to me; so I"ll bump it to the top and maybe it will help someone else
Matthew 11: 28-30
12-21-2010, 06:38 AM
Enjoyed the whole post of every one.