View Full Version : Drs. ego before patients well-being,AGAIN
06-09-2009, 11:53 AM
I cant believe what happened to me yesterday with my neurologist!:no: Carl and i went to her because we have concerns about all of my neurological problems that are just getting WORSE by the day, especially with these viruses my bodies trying to fight off. From what ive learned an MRI, CT scan, and an EEG of the brain can show up normal in people with Lupus so they recommend a PET scan and other neuropsychological testing which can show the blood flow abnormalities in our brain. I have so many symptoms of vasculitis along with many other symptoms of it attacking my CNS as well so we asked her if she could prescribe one for us. She actually said "NO" to us. SHe said we DONT tell HER what WE WANT, SHE TELLS US what SHE THINKS I need done! SHe said she would give me the MRI, well HELLO, i HAD that done already!!! SHe looked it over my LAST visit WITH ME! DUH! SHe said well do it again cuz SHE said so. OMFG!!!!! It came back OK, thats WHY i want the PET you idiot! Carl said, "so wait a minute here, you're telling us that we cant get the PET done because WE want it done?" SHe said UH HUH! Carl said "but you will prescribe a test thats already BEEN done that shows nothing". He then said " if it comes back normal again THEN will you prescribe it?". SHe said "NO, because it didnt come from me"! OMG!!! We were floored! She proceeded to tell us that she doesnt see all of my symptoms we told her about in me as i sit there in front of her, so how can she BELIEVE us that i have them all!!!!! OMG again!!!! She then told Carl "You can video her when she gets them all and then bring it to me and maybe then ill believe you get these symptoms"!!!! WOW!!!! We just looked at each other and he said "You've got to be f***ing kidding me, because Jeannette doesnt have EVERY symptom at this moment you want me to video her and bring it to you?" "YES". Carl looked at me and said " We're done f***ing around here with her an her ego, lets go". He helped me off the table and i looked at her and said 'you're supposed to do everything possible to HELP your patients and its so sad that your EGO is bigger than your concern for the ill".
There was actually MORE that happened as well, believe it or not, this was nutshelled! LOL Sorry its so long guys!!!! Carl and i have been dealing with egos time and again and its pathetic. :wacko: This one REALLY took the cake though! Just had to vent and share!!! THANK YOU for listening!!!!!!
06-09-2009, 12:03 PM
I hate the freakin God complex, theses Drs have like they can never be wrong, and that if u question them, they say your a hypochondriac, and just angry and depressed! I have had one tell me to shut up b4! I am sorry you, went thru this junk again! I am glad your hubby stood up 4 u. Mine just set there, and even agreed one time when the idiot said it was all in the mind!! hugs KAthy:nah:
06-09-2009, 12:18 PM
AWWWWW, THANK YOU SWEET KATHY!!!! SO sorry you were told to shut up!!! OMG!!! JERK!!!! :no: Sorry your hubby agreed with the docs one time as well! NO NO NO!!!! Thats just NOT RIGHT!!! Im coming with you and im gonna RALLY with you KATHY!!!!! WOO HOO!!!!!:yes:
06-09-2009, 12:27 PM
Ill pick u up b4 my rhuem 2morow! haha!! Actually hes the only Dr I like! Ill pick u up for my Uro. on 16th! Be waiten outside! lol hugs
06-09-2009, 12:52 PM
Ill be waiting Kathy!!!!!! LOL :drive: Here you come to get me!!! LOL
06-09-2009, 01:31 PM
I so understand this appointment experience....ive had many similar.Can you imagine....in the beginning for me....they said i had depression as i sat there with no hair and swollen blue legs :)
You keep strong and get some attitude....its what they understand.Be quiet,shy and obey them...they get rid of you quick and dont listen...like me.Get tough,have an attitude and demand.....they listen and will treat you.Hope you find a good Doctor and soon my friend.
Right this is what i think of that doc today.......Angel shows her butt again :)
lots of love
06-09-2009, 01:47 PM
LOL!!! Love you and thank you Amanda! TOO FUNNY!! You made me laugh!!!!!:laugh: Yeah, Carl and i are getting pretty good at telling drs where they can go these days!!!! LOL
06-09-2009, 02:05 PM
Oh Jeanette...that is so awful! ((((Hugs))))sweetie. (((Hugs)))) to Kathy and ((((Angel)))) too.
I applaud your hubby! Way to go Carl!!! And what you said at the end was perfect, sweetie! You go girl. Don't take that crap. Can you get your money back? I'd be demanding it back.
My new pcp and I had a small chat about doctors like this. She said some people get into the medical field to help others, some get in to only fund their research and don't know how to treat patients, and others are in it just for the money/career. It's awful we can't screen these people before we pay money to visit them.
06-09-2009, 02:57 PM
OMG!!! Now you KNOW how much I HATE arrogant, meglomaniacal doctors with GOD complexes!! Lucky7, it is so fortunate that neither my husband or myself were there because I would be asking all of you for bail money!! I am barely containing myself as I sit here now! I want to go out and find this woman and literally :rocketwhore: :twak::chairshot:
You get my drift! I am so proud of you and your husband for standing up to her and for not letting her get away with her arrogance! Are you members of an HMO?? If so, PLEASE report her immediately and demand another doctor. She can't repeat tests just because she refuses to do what you want? Who is supposed to pay for the repeated test? You? And the video?? I am just speechless with anger right now! This woman is an IDIOT! She is a perfect example of what I call "An Incompetent Intellect".. a person with book smarts but who is as dumb as a rock!
Again, my hat is off to you and your husband :hail:.
I do hope that you report her and that you find a competent doctor! Whew, let me go get a glass of wine to get my blood pressure back down!
Peace and Blessings
06-09-2009, 03:02 PM
Wow, sorry to hear you had to go through that. It's weird, but I have found that women doctors tend to want to blow off my symptoms and even my diagnosis more than men doctors. Not saying there aren't good ones, but most I have had treat me like I'm a drug seeking fake. I had a rheumy question my diagnosis and treat me like I was drug seeking a couple of years ago in my first visit to her because she couldn't see anything wrong with me. I had told her I was medically controlled at this point in my life, listed all my previous history, etc. Because I had no problems moving, walking etc. she said I was only there to get drugs from her and she didn't even think I had Lupus. Uh, I'm on plaquneil...that's it. No pain pills or anything. So I'm a druggie who likes anti-malarials for the high it gives me? :laugh: Her staff even refused to give me a copy of my bloodwork as I stormed out because "The Dr. doesn't like to be bothered with patients who call with questions". I told them not to worry, I would never step foot in front of that quack again loudly in front of a room of patients waiting to be seen and walked out.
Can you find another neuro possibly?
06-09-2009, 03:16 PM
I am speechless, Jeannette. Just a second let me pick my mouth up off the floor. Insane, Inane. Head hugs...I am so sorry you had to experience such an incompetent doctor.
Please, file a complaint as Saysusie suggested..For your peace of mind and so no one else will have to experience that.
Hugs and Love,
06-09-2009, 08:54 PM
i just can not believe that this happened to you. I know Carl was probably about to explode. This dr. is lucky that all he did was use a few choice words. I agree with saysusie, can you report her to your insurance company? There must be some way to hold these idiots reponsible for the incompetent treatment that they dish out to patients. Yes, a glass of wine will help get my blood pressure back down.
i am not a vendictive person, but maybe if this "dr." (and i use this term loosely) had to face such a disease or if someone she loved battled lupus, maybe she would understand a little better what you are experiencing.
i am so mad, i can't even think of possible solutions for you....just sleep tight tonight, and maybe tomorrow will bring forth some options.
you are an incredibly loving person, and should not be treated this way.
I read this yesterday and was so outraged that I sent Jeanette a PM telling her what I think of this Dr. because what I had to say was, shall we say, colorful. Now I read this again today, and it's just mind boggling that a person in this Dr.'s position could act like this. Are people like this born A-holes, or do they go to some special class to learn it.
I don't know if I could show the restraint that you and Carl showed Jeanette. I'd probably end up in the klink with Saysusie. I have this rule, I will not be rude or use any harsh words to a woman, even if she is rude as hell to me and deserves it. But in this case, I would make an exception.
06-10-2009, 07:03 AM
this dr. is definitely the front runner in the competition for worst dr. Maybe we should just get a certificate made and mail it to her just for the hell of it....we should frame it so that she can't just toss it into the garbage...
it has been a long time since i have been so angry with someone as i am this poor excuse for a dr.
06-13-2009, 01:06 PM
WOW!!!!! Thank you EVERYONE SO MUCH for your supportive words of encouragement and concern!!!!:yes: I am late reacting to all of you due to my illnesses lately putting me on the couch or in bed like a zombie! LOL What a nice thing to come back too though!!! Im eager to go back and take her on again now!!!! LOL:wizard: She better watch out cuz this is what Carl and i will do to her!!! LOL Yeah, Carl had to really hold back, it was funny when he asked me if i was proud that he lasted as long as he did! LOL Shoot, i told him i wanted him to do his "THING" on her from the time she opened her mouth and all i heard was " dont defy me, for i am GOD"! LOL:laugh: All of you are great and i appreciate your words of encouragement and support!!!! Carl and i have a list going of drs names we are going to turn into the board, along with our lawyer! LOL Shoot, my ENT who is my BEST dr yet, even told Carl and i to quit f***ing around with the drs in our area and go to some REAL ones! LOL Hes GREAT!! I wish he could be my dr for EVERYTHING!!! Hey, Kducks, i too experience women drs being less helpful than the male drs ive been to as well. HMMMMMMM, who would have thought it huh!:no: