View Full Version : Hi Everyone, sorry I haven't been around

07-25-2008, 12:24 AM
Hello all my fellow Lupies. :)

Well, I've had lots going on, not on any meds for Lupus except pain meds cuz I'm in the middle of changing doctors. I am going to OHSU to see the head of the Lupus Clinic up there and am hoping to get on a good medication routine. They are super busy so when I first called to get a referral up there in early June, they were scheduled out until late September and acted a bit like I would just have to wait and who cares. Then they got my medical records and called me straight away, sounding a little worried (which I was glad but also freaked out about!) They had a cancellation for early August and put me in, they also have me at the front of the list for any earlier cancellation, even same day.

More importantly, we were in NE for a couple of weeks at the end of June beg of July re our custody case for my step-son who feels like nothing less than my own son so from now on that is how I will refer to him. It went ok, his mother lied through the entire hearing and I've never been to court before so I was floored that someone would lie under oath, but she's in and out of jail for drugs all the time, I'm sure lieing under oath is nothing new for her, blurgh! For some reason the judge felt the need to think about which parent should get custody, which is stupid cuz my husband is clean as a whistle and very responsible, the angle her attorney used was that my husband hasn't always had contact with his son, uh yeah, because they wouldn't let him!!! Her family did EVERYTHING in their power to hide from us and keep Gavin from us!! I can't tell you how much we've ALWAYS tried to find him and keep in touch and get to know him, on the little resources that we had!!! Well, what's done is done and I'm just going to pray, pray, pray about this. If this is Jehovah's will for us to get custody, NO ONE can stop it from happening!

Anyway, we were granted three weeks visitation with Gavin and brought him home to Oregon, we had a blast having him out here, he zapped me of all my energy but I didn't care, I was sooooo glad to have him home!!! He left today to go back to NE to visit an aunt before the judge makes a decision, hopefully he will before school starts! It was a hard day, it felt like my heart was being ripped out of my chest! :( Like I said though, I'm leaving this in Jehovah's hands now.

Well, I have to go for now, not feeling so hot, I hope you are all doing well.


07-25-2008, 01:04 PM
There you are Onpointe,

I had put an APB out on you a bit back, but no response. I was wondering how you are...

I happy to know you spent time with you son...and soon the custody will be resolve. I pray in your favor too.

I hope the anxieties have subsided, have they...

Thought of you often..about your animals, son...

Pretti in Pink
07-26-2008, 05:55 AM

I stand in prayer with you for the best for your son, it's horrible when children have to take the brunk of irresponsible parents. I always pray for strength for your family during this time.

07-26-2008, 12:32 PM
Don't be too concerned about the judge having to think about who was best for your son (note, I said "son"). He had to do this in order to avoid an appeal; if he did not give equal consideration to both sides, one side would have grounds to appeal his decision! In this way, whatever decision he makes (and I pray that it is a decision in your favor) he will give his reasons and the decision will then be final.
Do not lose heart and continue to keep faith. We are all praying for you! It is so good to have you back. Oluwa did, indeed, put out a call to you (she is so sweet that way) and I'm happy to see you've answered.
We are all right here where you left us and we will still be here for you whenever you need us.

Peace and Blessings

07-28-2008, 05:30 PM
Onpointe! So happy to see your post. Glad you had time with your son. I hope the judges decision will mean that you'll have lots and lots of time with him from now on. Let us know what you learn when you see the lupus specialist. Feel better.....


07-31-2008, 08:49 PM
My boyfriends ex-girlfriend lied under oath about things in his custody battle too. I also was floored, but she is such a piece of work. How could I expect anything different? Just like your situation, she kept my boyfriend's son from us and even took him out of state to Utah and
John didn't see his son, John Jr., for way over a year. We didn't even know where he was, or anything. How can a mother be so cruel?

I just feel so bad that you have had to go through this. I know how heartwrenching it all is!