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Nonna
04-05-2014, 03:39 PM
As some of you know, I am caregiver for my parents. Today I remember all but one thing that I was supposed to pick up. My father has complained in the past about my faulty memory. I explain about the Lupus again for the umpteenth time and then he gets concerned about my health, which upsets him more.

My situation now is, do I lie and say they said to check back on Monday or tell the truth?

Thought about deleting this, not sure what I'm doing. Need to think on this and the whole situation.

steve.b
04-06-2014, 05:04 AM
if you want to help take care of your family, then help.

if you need an excuse not to help ... you have it.

if it were me, (and would opt for helping them), .....
take steps to make it easier for yourself.
cary a small note book with you.
nothing happens without it going into the book.

i need a notebook for myself, and i am not caring for anyone else.
i therefore see it as a natural concept for you to use for the help of your parents.
then, they and you are all accepting that you have limitations,
and they are in the best care you can provide.

LOTS OF HUGS ((( )))

Moonbeam
04-06-2014, 11:45 AM
Nonna, if it were me a would tell them the truth. I would simply tell them that I forgot one thing. It is kind of like me missing the exit on the freeway. So I missed an exit on the freeway. So you forgot to pick up one thing. I feel for you, as I went through the same thing with my parents. All you can do is the best you can do. I commend you for keeping them in their home and taking care of them. If you can find someone to help you out, a friend, relative, or part-time caregiver, it would give you a break. You may have already tried to do that though. My best to you.