View Full Version : Lupus fatigue is mostly psychological

12-03-2013, 11:37 PM
.... Is what my family doctor said to me 2 days ago. I am still recovering from that statement and needless to say, I am looking for a new doctor who is not in the ignorant age of medicine!!!

I've been in a stressed out horrible mood since... Including just wanting to go to bed forever!

12-04-2013, 12:00 AM
.... I am still recovering from that statement and needless to say, I am looking for a new doctor who is not in the ignorant age of medicine!!!.......

i too would not want a person with this attitude to look after my health.
dont get upset over him ...... just dont give him any money, ever !!

12-05-2013, 11:07 AM
I am glad that you are looking for a new doctor because this one is, without a doubt, an ignorant jerk. Perhaps consider reporting him (and his ignorance) to the administrator so that he can be prevented from making any further backwards statements to Lupus patients.
Best luck in finding an intelligent and informed doctor.

Peace and Blessings

12-05-2013, 07:00 PM
Oh yea my last Rhuemy said this to me all the time. I kept telling her i'm not tired because i'm depressed; i'm depressed because i'm tired all the time! I wish these doctors could be in my shoes for a month then they will understand!

12-06-2013, 12:35 AM
I'm so there with you about uninformed doctors. My primary told me I just need to lose weight before my diagnosis. I wanted to scream back at him, " Yea because all fat people have these problems!" I started bringing a scary looking friend (who's really as nice as a teddy bear) and I haven't gotten anymore inappropriate comments.

12-06-2013, 12:34 PM
Thank you so much for all your support (smiley face).

This was such a hit to me but in hindsight it all made sense. I have seen him for 15 years and as I look back, not once did he agree with me that any of my ailments were from the lupus. It makes me so mad. He also made me feel like I am crazy... Which is hard to not think when you know the disease has hit your brain. It seems like everyone pegs you as being crazy when they know that. Well, yes, I know sometimes I am crazy and my moods are bizarre but then I look at people who have no health problems who are really crazy but don't seek treatment for it!!!!! Puts me in a real tailspin.... Males me wonder why I even bother to seek to improve myself through counselling and seeing psychologists when "normal" "crazy" people just don't care and keep on "being crazy".... Did that make sense???????!!!!!! ...what a head case I am!!! HHS, at least I can admit it is what I figure!

...can anyone relate?


12-06-2013, 01:29 PM
Hi everyone, this is the first time on this forum...and I found your comment describing exactly how I feel...although I do have a good rheumat who's helping me with my lupus/fibrom/RA but I still feel depressed because I am always in pain, tired and can't have fun with my kids anymore.
Actually the reason I was checking this forum was to see if lups can cause the retinal detachment?

12-06-2013, 08:30 PM
Unfortunately, stories like this are not uncommon. Way back when, we used to give an award
here in honor of this type of medical "professional". It's high time we started giving out this
award once again.

It's a very special song played in recognition of their "abilities".

There's a tiny bit of bad language in the song, but nothing too over the top.

So, in honor of Heather123's Doctor-


12-06-2013, 11:00 PM
Haha!!!!! As I was opening the link, that song popped in my head.... And sure enough!!!

Thanks for making me feel better!

12-06-2013, 11:18 PM
Sorry, rockycky, I don't know .... Perhaps someone else will...

12-10-2013, 04:48 PM
What an idiot. Drs are a bit hit and miss sometimes. I had a rheumy that told me I had too many kids in too short a time (well, wouldn't you with a disease that might render you infertile and treatment that might do the same?). Apparently I just need to rest and eat more protein. (Forget that I had a list of 16 lupus related issues...)


01-12-2014, 04:11 AM
If my fatigue was in my head, I would be one happy camper, because then I would check myself into an intensive care mental facility to get my head straightened out so I wouldn't have to feel this tired anymore. lol....

01-14-2014, 04:08 AM
My dr said I have too many children. I just need to eat more protein and get enough sleep. (Ok so I do have five kids). The first dr I saw explained to my mum that I couldn't have M.E. since I didn't have the right disposition, I was too chirpy!

I'm with you Heather. It's such a shame that you can't rely on a health professional to even know what they're talking about. It's not fair that people have to fight to get themselves heard and then get told they're just attention seeking.....