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07-03-2012, 08:11 PM
i am placing this here, so every one can find it easily.


i am sorry, but the full written version is too big to go onto 1 post.

07-03-2012, 09:18 PM
Could you please put the other stories that you found here as well? They have been very helpful to many!

07-03-2012, 10:46 PM
there is another sticky in the symptoms section called "The Open Letter To Those Without CFS/Fibro …".

both of these stories are sticky's, so they will stay at the front of the section.

07-03-2012, 11:00 PM
Awesome! I just missed it! Thank you!

08-18-2012, 02:22 PM
I love the "spoon theory" and have pulled from it many a time to explain the exhaustion I feel and how easily my energy is used up and gone before I have even gotten dressed for the day. After nearly 18 diagnosed years with lupus, I have finally learned not to use up all my spoons on a given day, as I may need extra tomorrow to get myself out of the shower!
May you all have an extra spoon from time to time!

08-27-2012, 01:59 PM
This has come in handy with my fiancÚ! So glad I'm meeting so many wonderful people to help me on so many levels! He's still not as understanding as I'd like (he's waiting for the dx) but he's better and "spoons" have become a regular part of our daily conversations! Love it:)

01-10-2013, 06:50 AM
The spoon theory link is not working ...


01-10-2013, 10:22 AM
They changed it. I put a new one in there. Try again

01-12-2013, 04:45 PM
Wow, the spoon theory really moved me emotionally. I have allowed myself to feel "wimpy" when I have to tell someone I can't spend an afternoon walking on the beach with them on a sunny day, or to spend an entire day shopping - things that we previously felt were fun and relaxing. I know they don't understand, even when I try to explain that the sun can harm me or that I seem to hit a brick wall after a couple of hours of shopping and feel I can't walk another step. I don't even mention the pain. I also have to work on not being in denial about what my limitations are. I always feel like I'm not really trying hard enough when I have to stop before a task is accomplished. The spoon theory will help others understand, but more importantly, I think it is helping me realize that I have to accept and understand my own limitations and make better use of my "feel good" time and energy. Thanks, steve.b for sharing.

03-03-2013, 07:53 PM
A very touching story. I identify with her, I am a Type 1 diabetic with polyperipheral Neuropathy.

Thank you so much for posting this link.

04-22-2013, 10:20 AM
thank you so much for posting this letter .( im sorry for the caps i dont know y it will only type caps)

Doggone Crazy
04-25-2015, 07:25 AM
I can relate to The Spoon Theory. I was forever the do all self sufficient Alaskan gal. I never needed to ask for help. Why, that would mean you're slacking! Now I realize I can't do it all and I realize I have to pick and choose my battles. Today I might not clean up the yard but I can get dishes and laundry done. Today I will get the vacuuming done but not the dusting. My biggest hurdle is at work. I work in a boarding kennel and that means 6-9 hours on my feet walking and playing with dogs. When I get fatigued I have to keep going. I have talked to the boss about fatigue and he is understanding and will delegate my work load to other employees. Still, a 9 hour work day on my feet is asking a lot. Realizing that you can't do it all is humbling and it's a lesson I had to learn the hard way.