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bella189
01-24-2012, 10:42 AM
I don't know how to handle this anymore!! Honestly, Im an executive assistant for a very busy Director General, and the work load is very high. What is worse, is I have no support, making the stress load through the roof. Lately im so exhausted, and my memory evades me, making every day a struggle to get through. Any errors reflect on me, even if they are caused by the lack of admin support (the other admin postion has turned over 7 times in the last 1.5 years). Im just not sure how to handle this. I take my job very seriously, thus when I screw up, im generally very hard on my self.

At home Im struggeling just to be a good mom and a good girlfriend. I try really hard not to let my exhaustion and my pain show through anywhere, as noone likes a complainer. The thing is, it also leaves me feeling depressed at times.

Im struggeling wtih the thought of getting a doctors note for stress leave at the moment... but im not sure that would help any, as the work would just be here when I get back.

I just needed to vent...

Thanks for reading.

Melissa

tgal
01-24-2012, 01:00 PM
Take a deep breath and try to calm down.

Your post could have been written by me a few years ago. I worked for an escrow company and I specialized in curative issues meaning that I fixed problems in the title. I dealt with attorneys every day and I read legal documents for fun. I slowly began to realize that I wasn't comprehending what I was reading. I was making mistakes and I seldom did that. I came home at night, made dinner and went to sleep. My family nor my job got my best anymore.

Vent away. We do understand and that is what we are here for.

Welcome to the WHL family!

kim,l
01-24-2012, 05:46 PM
i am sorry you are having such a hard time but vent away that is what we are here for i do not work out of the home but i am a carer to my sick husband and autistic daughter and i home school her. but i to become overwhelmed and my memory is so bad i use whiteboard and journal just to remember what i have to do. it can be so frustrating and depressing and you feel so tired trying to juggle everything. so just know we understand and are here for you hugs

Nonna
01-24-2012, 07:25 PM
I'll offer commiseration; I'm exactly where you are at. But my errors mainly silly ones have happened so often that my boss is put out with dealing with me. I think she's about to terminate me. But then she turns around and gives me more to do. My memory is not what it was. No more pulling numbers and facts out of thin air.

I eat sleep and work. I have no life at the moment. So I know exactly how you're feeling. Venting helps, but it's not an answer. I have to survive for 2 years yet then I can get ss and Medicare . But how do I do it without crashing........

Wish I had the answer for both of us. Thanks for posting. I was coming to post about this myself. Stress is only relieved with the absence of the pressure caused by the job. No job no pressure no stress.

Ramblin' Rose signing off

magistramarla
01-24-2012, 10:12 PM
Melissa,
Stress is our enemy. Many of us here know exactly what you are going through. I was a high school teacher, and I loved my job.
The students and the curriculum that I taught wasn't my problem. The stress that really got to me was dealing with the administration, the never-ending meetings, and the piles of extra responsibilities that they kept piling onto the teachers. It finally got to the point that I felt stretched so thin and was so exhausted that I realized that it wasn't fair to my students for me to keep trying to stay in the job while short-changing them.
It makes me sad, because I really, really loved those kids.
Hang in there, hon.
Hugs,
Marla

Desleywr
01-25-2012, 01:24 AM
Melissa,
Stress is our enemy. Many of us here know exactly what you are going through. I was a high school teacher, and I loved my job.
The students and the curriculum that I taught wasn't my problem. The stress that really got to me was dealing with the administration, the never-ending meetings, and the piles of extra responsibilities that they kept piling onto the teachers. It finally got to the point that I felt stretched so thin and was so exhausted that I realized that it wasn't fair to my students for me to keep trying to stay in the job while short-changing them.
It makes me sad, because I really, really loved those kids.
Hang in there, hon.
Hugs,
Marla

Exactly! I used to lecture at University: strategic management, organisational behaviour etc. whoo it is hard to even spell the names of the subjects I taught let alone debate with students. I too gave up as it wasn't fair on them they deserved a competent teacher. But I do enjoy my days, they may not be as full but I feel satisfied and that satisfaction is mainly there because of my supporting husband as we do talk now about my feelings and struggles and worries of what and who might think! So when you enjoy your day and work then others around you enjoy their days better, the influence you have on your family is priority not any job. When I realised this my whole family including married daughter were so much happier!

bella189
01-26-2012, 08:18 AM
Thank you everyone for the kind words.

I took a sick day yesterday, and ended up sleeping until 2pm.

Unfortunatly today I do not feel much better, i have farily seer pain in my neck :S

SuzyB
01-28-2012, 10:57 AM
I know just how you feel Bella. I'm currently the only earner in our household as my husband was made redundant just before xmas. Yet I'm struggling.. I'm so tired I get up, go to work, come home, eat and sleep. If i do try tot go out at the weekends I end up with swollen joints and a headache and so tired. My Husband doesn't seem to understand. Even though he's home all day at the moment the majority of the housework and cleaning are still left to me. He whinges that I never go out any more. He just doesn't get it. I work in IT and am expected to remember details all of the time. I find these days I have to write things down. I seem to have lists for everything.
Good luck. just know you're not alone