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08-31-2011, 02:49 PM
i have had a tragic loss in my life. my only son PFC Douglas Cordo had died in Afghan on august 19th 2011 he was only 20 years old.. he was a American hero who died for our country. I'm still lost for words. I'm so empty inside that i cant feel anything.. how do you every get over this. He was in US Army. i couldn't be any prouder of my son. He was funny kid. always made everyone laugh. I'm not sure how to get threw this. but I'm trying. its like my heart has been ripped out of my body and it will never come back. a part of me has died with him.. He was my whole life. my everything. he was my son.. your American soldier who was fighting to keep us safe. i ask of all of you to pray for my son and all the soldier who are still over there trying to keep us safe..


08-31-2011, 04:05 PM
i am so very sorry for the loss of your son he was so very brave to do what he has done although i am not religious i will have you and you son in me thoughts as well as all the brave men and women who are over there fighting to protect us all if you need to chat at i will be here you can pm at anytime many hugs and for you and your family

08-31-2011, 04:19 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. I agree. He was/is a hero and gave the ultimate price fighting for us.

08-31-2011, 05:03 PM
I am so very sorry for your loss-He truly is an Amereican hero!
Even now at the 10 yr anniversary of 9-11 so many are oblivious to the hard work and sacrafices of our young men and women in the military.My son is in the marines so I understand the sleepless nights worring about a child deployed so far away.But I can only imagine what you must be going through,my heart goes out to you.

You and your son Douglas will be in our prayers.
Remember you are not alone-there are parent support groups for military families.

Thank you for your service and sacrafice- the world is a better place because of it!

08-31-2011, 05:21 PM
Dear Tracy

I am so very sorry for your loss.
Please know that you and your son are in my prayers.


08-31-2011, 05:56 PM
I am so very sorry for your loss. Words cannot express it. Sending you strenght and couraged during this difficult time.

08-31-2011, 05:57 PM

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost a lifelong friend in Iraq back in 2007. He was Army too.

But to lose your own son. I cannot imagine what you and your family are going through right now.

I saw the picture of your son Douglas. The young man has the look of a true professional, and an outstanding soldier.

I'm sorry Tracy.


08-31-2011, 07:38 PM
You are in my thoughts and prayers. There is no relating to such a loss and I can't begin to imagine what you're going through.

08-31-2011, 07:57 PM
i spent 12 years in the australian airforce.
i have seen loss of friends.

i loss my sister (she was murdered).

i know similar pain,
but cannot imagine your true hurt.

please remember some of the good times.

he is and will always be a true hero.

thank you for letting him serve.

08-31-2011, 07:57 PM
There are no words to console a broken heart. I just know, the pain gradually lessens....but you will always grieve. Grieving is an extension of of our love for them. For me, realizing this, it has helped me to embrace, understand the pain I have. Uplifting you, your family, our soldiers in prayer.

Tight hugs,

08-31-2011, 08:06 PM
I'm a military wife and mother, too. My heart goes out to you.
My son is a Marine, who thankfully came home safely. My daughter is counting down the days until her Airman husband returns from Afghanistan.
Military spouses and mothers must bear so much.
I know that he will be the hero in your heart forever.
Gentle Hugs and Love,

09-01-2011, 12:41 AM
You and Douglas are in my thoughts and prayers
Hugs and loving thoughts headed your way

09-01-2011, 05:57 AM
My heart and prayers go out to you! May you find some comfort in your memories.

09-01-2011, 08:33 AM
I am so very very sorry Tracy. I don't even have the words. God love you and your family.

09-01-2011, 08:41 AM
Oh Tracy Im so sorry for your loss, Just reading this bought tears to my eyes. Yes we are all very proud of our soldiers but most of all my as a mother my heart goes out to you. I can't even begin to imagine the kind of pain you are in. You and you family are in my prayers hun. The Lord is the only one that can give you the strengh and faith to begin healing all in due time. Sending hugs your way.

09-01-2011, 01:12 PM
Tracy, I cannot fathom the pain you are going through. I am so sorry that your family has made this ultimate sacrifice for our country. I hope you will contact military support groups and get personal counseling as well. My brother died when he was 28 and I will never forget seeing my parents (especially my mom) when we arrived at their house. It was like Mom's soul was gone and I wondered how she was even able to stand upright. They have managed to rebuild their lives, but it has been one painful brick at a time. The pain has not diminished, but they have learned to enjoy living again. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please stay in touch with us here at WHL.

09-01-2011, 06:01 PM
Tracy....I am thinking of you. Tight hugs. Oluwa

09-01-2011, 06:58 PM
You and your family will be in my thoughts. Hugs to you sweetheart.

09-01-2011, 08:22 PM
thank you everyone. i just dont know how to deal with it.. what do i do now???

09-02-2011, 12:22 PM
thank you everyone. i just dont know how to deal with it.. what do i do now???

Has the military offered you any support yet? If so, take advantage of it. They are (hopefully) experts in helping parents to survive such a devastating loss. Try to connect with other parents who lost sons/daughters in the war. Find a local support group for parents who have lost children (to all causes). You will at least be with people who understand why you can't "move on" and who have lived through the first few years of loss. Allow people to come and just sit with you, if that is comforting. Talk if you want to, or let them help you fix dinner or clean out a closet together. People genuinely want to help, they just don't know what to say or do.

My mom had a really hard time leaving the house, and then had a hard time coming home to an empty house. Let people keep you company when you run an errand, or just go for a walk - and then invite them in for a little while. You don't have to plan outings (because you won't want to for a while), just let people keep you company when you do ordinary things - if that helps.

For our family, we had to force ourselves back into even the most basic living activities. Going to the grocery store felt bizarre and Mom would break down when she passed my brother's favorite foods. It was so strange that the world kept going because ours had come to a crashing halt. Mom had a couple really good friends who helped her do those things, so she wasn't driving and she wasn't alone. Dad was still working, and his coworkers were very supportive.

Truly, my heart breaks for you and the thousands of other parents who have lost children in the military. If you ever want to PM me, I will give you my email address.

09-02-2011, 01:46 PM
I am truly sorry for you loss and this is a terrible loss. As a mother who has also lost a child, I know that there are no words that can be said that will provide you with the answers that you need. Your son was truly a hero and he brought joy to all who knew him. Your grieving will not become easier, nor will it ease with time. You will simply learn new ways to deal with it.
There is some peace and comfort in knowing that he was so loved by so many and that our world was a much better place with him in it. You can try to fill the empty hole in your heart with your loving memories of him and the knowledge that he was so special and so gifted. You and your family are in my prayers. If you ever need to talk, please know that I am here for you.