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lovedbyHim
06-11-2011, 05:24 AM
I was wondering, do any of you have a list of things you have dreams or doing someday? In spite of all the symptoms and loss of who I once was, I still have goals and dreams that I have not yet seen fulfilled. I want to go to Cambodia and work with sex trafficked children. I want to go backpacking with my girlfriends one last time. I want to raise goats again. I want to go to Alaska and see bigger bears.

I don't know if I will ever do these things, but I am going to try. Perhaps you have a dream I might want to try. Please will you share with me. If only to live vicariously through you for now.

lizbond36
06-11-2011, 07:22 AM
Great post for me I would love to travel to Europe, hike around that area. be able to smell the sea and feel the sand between my toes. I always would love to do camping, fishing with my kids under the moon. I always would like to watch a hockey game live again.

ruziska
06-11-2011, 07:58 AM
Of course I do! Lupus is part of my life, not all of it. I've recently become an empty nester. Its now the time for my husband and I to rediscover each other and enjoy ourselves. My future involves my mixed media art and setting up an Etsy shop and participating in craft shows locally and hopefully nationally. Lupus isn't going to stop that. Lupus will just come along for the ride and hopefully behave itself. Lupus modifies my dreams, it doesn't take them away.

tgal
06-11-2011, 11:14 AM
Good thread! Due to some of the things that Lupus has done to my mind and body there are things that I can't do. I am not one of the ones that is lucky enough to only have to modify my dreams. Some things had to go completely out the window but that is OK, once I was able to accept that I was able to start looking for new things that make me feel alive.

Right now my fabulous daughter is 16 so most of my dreams and thoughts of the future have to do with making sure that she gets into college and begins to have the life she deserves. After that I hope to work with abandoned and abused animals in some way or another. I often say that I like animals more than I like most people so I would love to be able to spend time with them.

I also hope to get to a place where I can get back to work. Who knows what my future holds. It will be very different then I had planned but I will make sure it is still rewarding

lovedbyHim
06-11-2011, 11:57 AM
Yes new dreams are wonderful too. Did I tell you the new dog I have was abused. She is @9 yrs old and is finally loved. She is special and hard work, but is coming along. I hope your dreams come true!

rob
06-12-2011, 07:37 AM
Since my SLE and MS diagnoses, I have fulfilled many dreams.

#1-Find a house on a little piece of land out in the middle of nowhere with a view of the ocean. Done

#2-Learn how to sail, navigate, and explore that ocean. Done

#3-Learn how to drive a race car. In progress

Most importantly though, is the dream that I was not thinking about, or pursuing- meeting a smart, beautiful lady who accepts me as I am, autoimmune disorders and all- Done


My life post diagnosis is more extraordinary than it ever was, or could have been back when I was healthy. It's made me both stop and smell the roses, as well as get busy living.

Rob

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 08:30 AM
Love it Rob! Nice to know you have been at this living thing for awhile. Prison ministry was one of my dreams and it has already begun. I'm so happy for you! You motivate me so much on the bad days. Thank you!

Peridot20_Gem
06-12-2011, 10:26 AM
My three main dreams and goals Tammy, is mine and my hubby's health picking up one way or another, the home being done out again next year then the lots done for abit and 3rdly a good 2wks holiday because i've not been on holiday in at least 6yrs.

Now that would be HEAVEN

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 10:40 AM
When you say holiday, is that a vacation. I would love all of this for you too. Where would you go on a holiday?

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 10:41 AM
I love to hike Liz! You see all the details that way!

Peridot20_Gem
06-12-2011, 01:39 PM
When you say holiday, is that a vacation. I would love all of this for you too. Where would you go on a holiday?Tammy,

Holiday over here is vacation.lol Well i won't go abroad again because of having the DVT and there's only me and ste and bruno and it would be lovely to rent a cottage where animals can go, loads of caravan sites do it but a cottage would be nicer and i would'nt mind scotland or cornwall never been there but they reckon they're gorgeous places and lovely scenery.

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 07:35 PM
Sounds lovely. Oh I do hope you get some holiday time to play.

BonusMom
06-12-2011, 07:46 PM
I have raised three great kids. My hubby was recently awarded sole legal and physical custody of his 15 year old daughter, which brings a host of parenting challenges. Luckily she's got a heart of gold and is doing very well with intensive therapy, so one can say this is an accomplishment both achieved and in the works.
Career wise, I've been a Paralegal twenty-four years and was a fraud specialist for many years before working for the big cheese (gov't). I took the state licensing exam for my PI license exam in 2007, hoping to be the next Locator. Although I was an expert in insurance fraud, I LOVED adoptions and reunifications. You see, I was adopted by my step-dad at age 6. My passion for investigations was fueled by my quest to find my bio dad at 17.

Due to cog fog, I fear that I couldn't effectively conduct an investigation. Some days, I have a hard enough time doing my regular job without problems, which saddens me beyond belief.

A voracoius reader all my life, I always thought I had a novel in me. I have considered writing a book and am thinking that perhaps that is where I should focus my energies, with a PI bent, of course.

Thanks for the thread. I didn't mean to be such a windbag.

magistramarla
06-12-2011, 08:44 PM
This is a neat thread.
We've raised five kids, so our goal of getting them all raised and started onto successful lives has been accomplished. Now we have three grandsons to be proud of.
I also accomplished the goal that I went to college to do - I designed the Latin program for a brand new high school, grew it into a successful program and happily taught for seven years. I've had several students win in state contests and I'm still in touch with several who have had successful careers in college and beyond.

We both had a goal to move on and start a new and fun life once the kids were raised. This included my hubby getting his PHD so that he can teach on a college level as a "retirement job". The AF gave him the perfect opportunity - we're now living on the beautiful coast of California while Jeff works on his PHD in computer security at the Naval Postgraduate School. I love it here.
He'll have to pay back some time to Cyber Command back in Texas, but then he's hoping to teach at one of the military academies - Westpoint or the AF Academy, perhaps.
We love the adventure of the military life, and we have fun exploring new places.

We also LOVE to travel. I've accompanied Jeff on several military-sponsored trips. Three summers ago, I spent six fun-filled days on Waikiki beach while he and his men installed something at Hickam AFB in Honolulu. Then, half of the group went to Korea, and we went with the other half to Tokyo, Japan. They installed their equipment at Kyoto AFB and tested it, and when the guys weren't working, we toured Tokyo. It was wonderful! I travel with my cane and wheelchair, but I still have a great time.

Last summer, our oldest daughter spoke at a neurobiology conference on Santorini, and invited us to join her, along with her fiancee, Eric. We toured Athens, saw the Acropolis, took a ferry to Santorini and explored it while Heather attended her conference, did the proud parent bit when she presented her paper and poster, and then took a fast boat to Crete, so that we could explore the Palace of Knossos. It was truly the trip of a lifetime for me!

We are planning to go to Italy someday, so that I can see the Colosseum and Pompeii. I would also love to see the Roman ruins in Britain.
We're also thinking of taking a family trip with Hillary, Steve and our Grandson David to Australia. David wants to be the next Steve Irwin (an animal conservationist), and he dreams of attending school there so that he can work at the Australia Zoo that Steve Irwin's family founded. Hillary wants to take him there after eighth grade to check it out.

We've had a great life. Our goal is to have an even better retirement. Thanks to my AI issues, we've had to change the way we do things a bit, but life is still good!
Hugs,
Marla

BonusMom
06-12-2011, 09:31 PM
One thing that I know my DH would really enjoy doing (therefore, I would enjoy doing) is visit all major racetracks in the U.S. Although DH races a Midget, he used to wrench on a nostalgic dragster and drove Formula 440 racecars. He wants to attend the Indy 500 (which we WILL). Some people make it their mission to go to all baseball stadiums, DH would love to go to all major rdragstrips!

Saysusie
06-12-2011, 09:42 PM
I love this thread :-)
I have to say that, like Rob, my post-Lupus life has been much more extraordinary than my pre-lupus life:
1. Wanted to be a professional model - Done
2. Wanted to sing and share my music with everyone - Done
3. Wanted to travel extensively and visit those places in my favorite books - Done
4. Wanted to have a long lasting loving marriage - Done
5. Wanted to have a beautiful boy and a beautiful girl - Done

What I would love to do, just one more time....Hold my daughter in my arms and tell her that I love her!

Peace and Blessings
Namaste
Saysusie

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 10:35 PM
How wonderful! I started to write one about my son with disabilities, but I am too undisciplined! May it be all you hope for!

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 10:41 PM
Wow Marla what a full life you are living? This brought tears to my eyes. I don't want to miss anything with the time I have. What an inspiring life!

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 10:44 PM
Thanks bonusmom, love your positive attitude. We WILL!

lovedbyHim
06-12-2011, 10:50 PM
Saysusie I am blessed by this. I am learning so much about everyone. I was asked by an agent to model but I felt it wasn't my path. Love your Spirit. Thanks

Peridot20_Gem
06-13-2011, 02:35 AM
I love this thread :-)
I have to say that, like Rob, my post-Lupus life has been much more extraordinary than my pre-lupus life:
1. Wanted to be a professional model - Done
2. Wanted to sing and share my music with everyone - Done
3. Wanted to travel extensively and visit those places in my favorite books - Done
4. Wanted to have a long lasting loving marriage - Done
5. Wanted to have a beautiful boy and a beautiful girl - Done

What I would love to do, just one more time....Hold my daughter in my arms and tell her that I love her!

Peace and Blessings
Namaste
SaysusieWell Saysusie,

It's lovely to hear you've achieved your goals so do your last one mate while you can i say. xxx